Dear Dr. Vaknin,
I have been married to a man with NPD for 10 years. I have gotten an STD from him and I undergo various forms of abuse daily, except severe physical, because of his very high standing in society.
Your book has helped me greatly, but I have a question for you. What about those of us who are forced to live with these monsters not because we "Insist on Staying" but because if I leave, I will be killed, my children will be killed , family members will be killed and then maybe he might just turn the gun on himself.
How do I cope with the mental insanity of wanting to be free and knowing that once he is alive that I can never be?