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Re: trying not to get pulled in

Postby gettingthere on Fri Nov 06, 2009 8:12 am

No. When gettingthere described your NM as "PM," I assumed that's what you had concluded she was."


The reason I referred to her as a PM was that I consider all people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Ns) to have some aspects of Anti-Social Personality Disorder (Ps and Ss). I have not known an N who wasn't also a P, but I have known Ps who were not Ns.

NPD is a recently recognized disorder (only since 1980) AND most psychiatric professionals very rarely see Ns. Ns seek treatment only when forced by court order or spousal insistence (and are uncooperative or in denial in those instances) or after severest narcissistic injuries (when they actually seek help on their own and provide more cooperation).
I would not be surprised if the experts eventually reclassify NPD as a subset of ASPD, instead of making it a separate category in the cluster B personality disorders, after they do more research into it in the future.

That is why I sometimes refer to Ns as either Ns, Ps, NPs, or Narcissistic Sociopaths - to me, they're all N-related.
I understand that my viewpoint is not written in stone and is open to debate.
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Re: trying not to get pulled in

Postby username3 on Fri Nov 06, 2009 9:27 pm

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Re: trying not to get pulled in

Postby Star Kitten on Sat Nov 07, 2009 4:41 pm

I know what you mean by saying that you feel too helpless to survive. When I moved away from NM, I couldn't do basic things like peel an apple. But I just taught myself the things she never did. I took a job welding in a factory even though it wasn't my dream, just because it paid enough money to get away from her. Because I never had a mom and dad to help send me to college and stuff like that to help me succeed career-wise, I've had low-paying jobs and lived in cheap apartments, but you know what? It's BLISS compared to living with NM. I really enjoy things like sitting on my balcony in the sun and reading the morning paper in peace with no one to run up behind me and yell at me to stop "sitting on your butt" instead of doing chores for her because how dare I have a moment to myself!

Don't listen to your N. You are not too helpless without her! You are a strong, capable, beautiful person!
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