Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

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Echo · Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 7:38 pm Post subject:

Hi Iz, I dont tremble anymore - but years out I still have an exaggerated startle response. If someone calls out, or comes up behind me unexpectedly I am straight up to the ceiling!

Much as I hate it, it has never gone - but I live in hope!

I think the trembling is shock too - and what really upset me is how such deep emotional pain can so often turn into physical illness.

Cookie1 · Guest

Echo...almost every disease we can get is caused by bad stress in our lives....When I was just in my 40's the Dr dx'd me with high blood pressure...I thought"You go live with that bastard and we'll take your blood pressure and see how high yours is" Laughing

The Dr said I was too young to have it even tho it runs in the family....same with my diabettees...said I was too young to have it even tho it runs in the family.....I was the typical battered wife....constantly went to therapests.....when I would say how he beat me or the kids and they would say they were mandated to turn it in I would beg and plead for them not to.After my bad car accident 10 yrs ago I got all of my transcripts from the clinic and was going thru them and was so ashamed of myself...just like reading a book...there was ME...begging for p not to get in trouble.......anyways...got off the topic.....stress is always the cause of ill health Laughing

Lukky · Site Admin Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 2550

Hey your right Cookie....... I never had Asthma untill I met the ExN... My kids had it but there was no history on my side of the family......

When I started getting it,,,,, I am sure it was stress induced.....

As far as the trembling goes well the drugs caused it to get worse,, and then the ExN would accuse me of being guilty of some crime because I was trembling and on it went......the Asthma would get worse and I would end up in Hosp

Hey No prob Iz........ I know it is often diffucult to see anything as funny when we are in the thick of it.......I think you will find that anyone here has experienced signs of PTSD and trembling is only one symtom....
I too had the vomiting ect and even still do sometimes..... but trembling and anxiety have been my worst nightmare....
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Izobell · Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 20

Thanks all....

...and I can agree that the emotional problems/stress lead to physical problems.
.....because after I left him, I broke out in a rash, arms and legs. I am STILL dealing with it, 4½ years later. I have terrible spots on lower arms and legs. Long sleeves and pantyhose cover them up! Doctors have no answers or cure Ideas.

**Sorry. that pic just doesn't want to go smaller, no matter what I do............. Yuck, eh?

One part of stress-turned-physical is pain in the upper arms. That comes first and then I know I'm stressed again---maybe on another issue other than the P., and now I know it is not my computer addiction.

I developed asthma as well, post nasal dip and a cough (all connected) that now interrupt my sleep.

Dealing with an N, P, N/P is so mentally and physically distressing ---and the only thing worse is trying to tell someone who hasn't a clue.

IZ
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pinkybubbles · Guest

I dont tell people who dont have a clue- I want new people in my life to know me for me not the woman whos been abused or to sympathise with my daughter. My family dont know the full extent because they wouldnt understand-

I dont sleep well- I have nightmares and I still recall new things which he did to me over 4 years ago.

Mom1983 · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 27 Location: California USA

Oh Izobell,

I'm so sorry. That it effects you that way. My DIL was arrested the 19th at 4:15 am for meth. She was released the 20th. I had a panic attack. Hyperventilating, Heart beating too fast, dizzy, numbness...God, I hate this.

I finally quit smoking (for myself and mostly my grandkids) when Pson was arrested. I figured I had a lot of time without stress! Ha!

I'm a weirdo, I'm GLAD when the kids are in jail. They aren't hurting anybody, they're eating, they aren't doing drugs etc...

I'm downright HAPPY!

Oh well..such is life, huh?
Mom

Echo · Posted: Fri Feb 23, 2007 3:39 pm Post subject:

This makes me so darn sad - look at all the damage done through stress!

Cookie - You are one strong lady - trouble is, youve had to be - no other darn choice - that makes me so mad!

Iz, Im so sorry for what youve been through - those spots - they look like psoriasis? - my husband is covered in them from the stress of dealing with his family and brothers spite.

Lukky - I hope your asthma eases soon - I know its a stress reaction, my H has that too.

Pinky - Oh yeah - the lack of sleep Exclamation

Im wishing you more restful nights soon.

Mom - I cant believe what youre going through - and quitting smoking too - Wow - congrats on that one!

Me - well my digestive system is shot to pieces and two years ago I was having to wear two or three pairs of sunglasses to come to this site - my eyes went so painful and sensitive to the light. Its not so bad now cos Ive got treatment for it and its gradually going (got Lyme disease from a tick bite out walking but its gotten really bad cos my immune system was so low and the bugs took over)

Thank g*d we have somewhere to come to talk to people who understand what its like. (shakes head sadly)

ocean · Joined: 12 Feb 2007 Posts: 309

Lucky

Sorry being so medical here, a fright causes you to shake,,
have you had blood sugar done lately, are you eating well, sleeping

Was this noticable during your P relationship or purely a fear reaction from stinky P's..

Anyone who shakes i have incredible compassion for,

Please investigate all avenues
Veteran returning from war, shell shock also shake during nightmares, memories flashbacks, poor fellows

Please dont suffer this alone
ocean