Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

ocean · Joined: 12 Feb 2007 Posts: 320

YOu are growing in understanding and integrity, well done, I wish you continued success on this journey, I have no doubts in your abilities to overcome.
ocean
you very nature shines through

louxloux · Joined: 20 Jul 2007 Posts: 1539

moved on and ocean,

thank you both so much for the kind words. You know, growing up in N household, compliments and kind words were sparce. When, or if, they ever did pop up, you learned to bask in them while you can, lol.

Your generosity of time, attention/taking interest and providing feedback, as well as your kindness are geniunely and sincerely appreciated Smile

Have a Blessed day

glugg · Joined: 20 Aug 2007 Posts: 1

to ME your story sounds more like your ex is a borderliner and not a narcissist, or psychopath.

if my english weren´t that miserable, i could try to explain....but, i can´t. i´m a silent reader on this board.

louxloux · Joined: 20 Jul 2007 Posts: 1539

Thanks for your feedback glugg

I thought about that, but he never was 'suicidal' - never threatened it, never once gave the impression he was even thinking that way; and didn't go into tantrums when we spent some time apart - he never had 'separation anxiety'. If I told him I needed some time alone, he seemed to understand and oblige in a healthy way (he could have hid that and kept it to himself, but I don't think Borderlines have that capability). The only time he seemed 'anxious' was in traffic. In fact, he seemed quite 'healthy' until the D&D (even though I overlooked 'superiority' red flags)... and it took about 8 months to get there. From what I understand, Borderlines can't go that long looking and seeming 'healthy'.

louxloux · Joined: 20 Jul 2007 Posts: 1539

just learned something new...

last weekend went on a birthday trip with the girls (4 of my friends and I have birthdays within 3 days of each other, so we decided last year to make an annual beach trip for our birthdays). Anyway, last year, N went with me. This year, some of the girls were asking about what happened to the relationship. As I started to explain, of course the 'golden boy' description came up. One of the girls said "hey.. wait a minute, he told me about his being 'the golden boy' last year" - he apparently went into detail re: how his parents regarded his as the golden boy with her as well. Suddenly, I realized that this was not something he shared in confidence with people he's close to .... this is a story that he shares with anyone who will listen. Rolling Eyes

I don't know why I thought that was 'soul sharing' between two people trying to get closer to one another. Certainly fits Dr. Sam's description of self- story telling (over and over and over). He truly thinks of himself as a golden child.. the chosen one - makes me want to puke.

movedon · Site Admin Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 814

Hi louxloux, hope your ok hun
Finding out hes shared what you thought was between just you two makes you more aware how they are, it also hurts

Golden boy(do you think maybe hes colourblind?)just a thought
Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers hun
Praying for a happier life for you

Hugs
Movedon
xxxxxxx