Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

lynn1234 · Joined: 14 Aug 2007 Posts: 671

I have noticed something really strange about my NM.. When I was a kid and we visited the small town where my NM lived she took me and my step-dad to a cemetary. We walked around the whole cemetary and she seemed to be interested in calculating the age of the person when they died.. if they were a child, what year they died.. say in the 1800's or early 1900's... She seems to like history so I just chalked it off in my mind that it was a history thing with her.. But then I remembered her taking me to another cemetary on that same trip and walking around as she looked at all the tomb stones and calculated to see how old the person was when they died.. Also, we didn't have any family members or knew anyone barried at these 2 cemetaries so now I wonder why she would chose to take a trip there while on a family vacation.. I don't think that thought would ever cross my mind no matter how boreing or small the town was...
Another thing.. this odd behavior came to mind last year.. We visited the cemetary where my step-dad is burried and she started to do the same thing with other people's graves.. Then she took me to a grave where a family was killed in a car crash and several children were burried with thier mother and they had a special little garden together on a hill.. But why? It's just morbid and depressing.. when she took me there to check it out I thought she knew the family but as I recall she had just heard about them in the news or something.. Then she did somthing that was totally tacky and insensitve... There was this young lady knealing down at a grave site by herself having a quiet moment with someone she knew who had died.. We were leaving the cemetary after visiting my stepdads grave site and she rolls down the window in the car and screams to the lady... are you visiting so and so's grave site? The lady looked really baffled and said no.. Then my mom in the car screams over to her.."Oh, I thought you were visiting so and so's grave site(forgot the name of the person she said) The lady gave her a blank look... And my mother screamed back.." I know someone who was burried where you are standing...nevermind..ok...Well, bye...."
I mean, how could my mother tell.. It was a huge cemetary and we were in our car so how could she know she was even in the same spot as the person that she knew who was burried there? How insensitive and weird to roll down the window and start screaming over to someone who is litterally grieving in that moment? and her weird facination of visiting 2 cemetaries on that family vacation and even last year visiting my step-dads site.. she had to go around and calculate how old people were when they died and show me where these kids where burried...It doesn't seem normal to me and a little freaky.. I don't know what to think of these experiances,,.... but they seem weird.

lynn1234 · Joined: 14 Aug 2007 Posts: 671

I meant to say.. my mom took me and my stepdad to a cemetary when we were visiting the small town where my Grandparents live. I was around 11 years old at the time.. Rolling Eyes

Crazy thing to do with a kid!
Visiting a Zoo or park would be a little more normal.... what a weirdo she is!

thayilflies · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 488

I think once you loose your foothold in reality - the here and now - people begin to do strange things indeed! Because once you are completely engaged in the mind you begin acting out strange behaviours. The "N" is at the extreme end of the scale - completely asleep and living in fantasy land. Most people are partially asleep. A few are awake. That is, their conscience is clear and are anchored in reality, the here and now. People certainly act strangely.

Smilin Fyodor · Joined: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 110

Serenity710 · Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 84

OMG Lynn --

I am so sorry you have to put up with such a crazy NM. Just shaking my head right now.

It seems like your NM was just trying to get some attention -- and she thought she could get it from this grieving person. It's all about the N -- a great example of how the N COMPLETELY lacks empathy.

Such inappropriate behavior.

Take care,
Serenity