Hello again Dr. Vaknin,
Based on what I have described in my last two questions, would you consider the exN a somatic type? I've always been confused by this because he does not seek in person sex or in person sexual gratification....
He gets most gratification online though from women in this game, which can often lead to emails, etc, but usually not much beyond that. He has not, that I know of, ever seen them in person??? I don't believe he has a whole lot to do with porn either. He is a virtual hermit other than his job (and his work is nothing high profile -- its' "just a job to make ends meet" to him -- I can't imagine his work is a big supply source).
This game, his job and having to do the bare minimum to take care of his kids when he has them (2 divorces) are his life in a nutshell.
Don't somatics want sex or at least porn on a regular basis? Also, he was not obsessed with his body -- but he would describe himself as "athletic" on his myspace. LOL is all I can say -- he was thin -- but I don't think he had worked out in a decade....and he smokes cigarettes and smokes marijuana daily.
In a "real live" relationship, like when we were together, he could not handle it beyond about 3 months acting like a "normal" person -- constant approach avoidance! Seduce and reject, seduce and reject.....though the sex was good and he seemed aimed to please when he wasn't disappearing on me.... he was a master at seduction -- the words (lies), fantasies, etc.