Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

oaktree · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 363 Location: Minnesota

my 42 year old nephew (nsis's youngest son) met my sons for dinner about a week back. my oldest son just told me yesterday what nephew said (this is N garbage all over it).

He said "_____ (my nsis) said that your mother (me) was not even around her (molesting pedophile) ex husband until she was 18. So it never (the molestation) happened and she is just trying to make this up."

Okay, my blood is boiling!!!!!!!!!!

My Nsis married him when I was EIGHT years old. He hung out at our house drunk many many times before they married, to the point where my father punched him out once when he came drunk to the back door at 2 AM. I had LOTS of contact with him after they married. They built a house on a lake after they married, and I stayed there MANY times in the downstairs bedroom on weekends to help take care of their kids. After my dad died when I was 10, I stayed there even more on weekends and in the summer. He came after me in that downstairs bedroom more than once, as he kept his clothes in that closet and could easily hide his actions, and she even walked in on him once when he was approaching me.

When I was about 14 he came after me in my OWN bedroom when my mother was not there. When I was 15 I went with them in an RV on a camping trip, and he came after me when she and the children were about 200 yards away in a play area. That time I kicked him off of me and told him never to touch me again. He disgusted me his whole life-he abused her, he drank a ton, he two timed her constantly, he would french kiss all the females at every family gathering, etc.

She sent him and he agreed to come to pick me up at college 350 miles away against my wishes, and he approached me there also. (Didnt succeed of course).

However, when she married him she saw it as her "Camelot" and he divorced her when I was 25. She never accepted the divorce even though he remarried eventually and lived about 300 feet from my new spouse and I when I was 25. He stayed away from me then, but the Nsis continued to invite him to family gatherings, and he came! All this time I never said anything.

Then the new wife had enough after about 5-7 years and divorced him. About two years later he died of cancer in 1993, and I was very happy. The Nsis had his ashes buried NEXT to where she will lie, with a big monument and everything in the local cemetery!!! Could she be more warped?

I could never express any thing for all those years, as I knew she would not believe me. After all she had tried to kill me at least twice and covered it up, and she had never given me voice, validation, or any kind of positive feedback once she figured out I wasnt really her at about age 6-7.
And she had everyone else in the family in her fangs/ntrance, so they werent going to believe me.

Well two years ago, in 2005, age the tender age of 53 for me and 69 for her, I tried to tell her when she and I were alone. I thought it would bring us closer as she had suffered alot of abuse from him, and that she would open up. I knew she was holding alot of pain inside too. BIG MISTAKE!!!! I didnt realize I was shattering the Nsis's FANTASY WORLD OF PERFECTION. I didnt realize how VAST it was.

And even now, anyone that could do basic math would know, and even her sister and brother in law (the pedophile's sister and husband) know how much I was around them after they were married and until I went to college at 17. In fact, at the age of 18, when the Nsis says I was finally around her husband, I was 350 miles away at college.

Her mind is totally gone!!! She is protecting every ounce of that little security blankie she can!!! And her son, my nephew, is buying totally into it.

There is more that he said, like that I should call his brother. Now, his brother is the one who hung up on me 1.5 years ago after saying I was evil, as I also shattered the family structure then by divorcing my husband of 29 years who had dementia and went to a group home. He also hung up on my son on another occasion when my son did not have this person fix his car, and chose someone closer to save towing costs, and we havent seen or talked to him since. When my nephew said this last week, my son said, "well he can pick up the phone. why doesnt he call US?" That shut him up.

UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for letting me vent. I can breathe a little better now and the hard spot in my gut is softening, but it has hardened again. She is so evil!! She still has me afraid after 53 years!!! I hate her so much!!

oak
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