Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

LeaveLone · Joined: 26 Feb 2007 Posts: 100

OK, help me please with THIS one.

When I am subjected to another "round" of evil from exNH (usually legal battles, now), I tend to get into "reaction" mode -- I try to solve the problem in my head, get all upset about the unfairness of it all...basically work myself into a ball of anxiety and fret.

I DON'T want to do this because I know this suffering of mine is allowing him to continue to work his evil in my life. But, how do I stop?

"Working it out" or punching it out doesn't seem like a good solution because I'm still devoting energy to the problem. I want to "redirect" my negative emotions into a better, happier space where I am able to let alot of his BS just pass by.

I don't think it's a "it'll just take time" mentality because it's been going on for 3 years now, and I don't see an end in sight. I want to "visualize" and hold in my head the image of happiness and peace, but somehow his cr** keeps breaking in like a bad commercial and before you know it, I'm back down into the "hole" where it just feels dark and hopeless. And, by being there, I know I'm keeping myself STUCK there. I want OUT! Please help.

LL

Gracie · Joined: 10 Jul 2007 Posts: 1

LL,

Hi. this is my first time here, I haven't even introduced myself at all, but I read your message here and I think I may have something that could help. I don't know if you are into any kind of alternative ways of handling emotions. If your not, you probly wouldn't like this. But I just know that this has worked for me. I have tried a relatively new therapy called "Thought Field therapy" with my new therapist. Its quite easy to do, as long as you can visualize whatever bad event or person that is causing the negative emotions.
I don't know the details about how it works, i only know that it HAS worked for me 3 times so far.
General overview I guess is to just say that you would sit and focus on feeling that fear or anger etc etc. And then tap on a series of pressure points on your body. Before you tap, you give your emotion a rating from 1-10, 10 being the strongest. Once you are done tapping, your number WILL decrease.
I had a hard time believing that it would work, but it did ALOT.

There are sites you can read about it, and sites that criticize it as well. I haven't read the critics yet, cause I am liking it right now lol, and there really is no harm in it, or no meds, nothing like that. If anything, I guess it can be another "tool" against the anxiety and fears that come along with dealing with someone like this!
If you want more info, just let me know.
Best,
Gracie
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