Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

ajpaavo07 · Joined: 23 Jul 2007 Posts: 3

From what I've read thus far and that isn't a lot I'm not hearing that NP can or will get better.

Are you an exception Dr V. ?

I've finally given up on any hope for/with my ex. NP. That decision was finally made after reading "a little" at this site. Of course, 25 years of living with the NP, and years of different 12 step recovery groups. That's all it's taken after 25 years + of hell with the NP, reading "a little" at this site!

I've become extensively educated in addiction and the effects on others. Not sure my solid understanding could possibly have been achived from "just" a text book account.

Like "Pathological Gambeler" they're sociopathic. I came to realize, "yes, when he's "in his addiction" he's dangerous in ALL ways. Due to denial, because I just couldn't "wrap" my brain around what this really ment, I obviously "minimized" how dangerouse they really are and/or can be.

What the hell was I thinking! He's a sociaopath! Like all the serial killers and criminals! I had three children with him! I refused to let totally go until our youngest was 18. This site was just the "little" shove it finally took. THANK YOU!

I have a girlfriend from childhood who was gut shot by her husband after she was fed up and leaving him for gambling their money. He then "a coward" went to the garage and gassed himself & the dog. Leaving behind a college age son now alone. I'm sure better off with out the dad who would not change but also his mom. Very sad.

Not happy about the expense it's cost me, financially, spiritually, emotionally, and physically. I'm greatful to "see" as I do today!

I shared info with my psychiatrist R/T this site and she was very interested. I believe because she could see a "HUGE" change in me. I've actually start to make better decisions and take care of me now with so much "less" guilt.

My thought is, "Can he ever change"? Not because I'm holding on to that "Life" we where supose to have shared together or at least I hope not! I'm trying to work on not hateing him for ever for that!

I'm wondering about the genetic component to this disorder. I'm watching my three adult children that I'm very suspicious of them acting this way them self.

Respectfully, ajpaavo07
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Profoundly affected & recovering alone finally ...

samvaknin · Site Admin Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 2289

Narcissistic and psychopathic parents and their children - click on the links:

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4727

Genetics and Personality Disorders

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders27.html

The Genetic Underpinnings of Narcissism

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal43.html

Narcissism at a Glance

http://samvak.tripod.com/narcissismglance.html

How Can I Save My Child from the Narcissist or Psychopath?

http://samvak.tripod.com/4.html

Healing Narcissism

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq63.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq77.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq70.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq12.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/10.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/case03.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq31.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/abusefamily8.html

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders37.html

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders45.html

You can learn more about me and my work here:

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/indexqa.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/cv.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/archive01.html (scroll down to section
titled "Sam Vaknin, NPD")

http://www.suite101.com/articles.cfm/npd (my journal)

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/journal1.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/sipurim.html (short fiction)

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/contents.html (poetry)

Take care there!

Sam