Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

superheromom · Joined: 11 Aug 2007 Posts: 74

I've worked for my company for 11 1/2 years. My boss is one of the best. He's a regional and oversees many locations in four different states. Right now, our entire industry is very slow; my boss has been in the business for 20 years and he said this is the worst he's ever seen things. People are being laid off in record numbers each month.

My boss is in the office next door to my office. He closes the door when he's on the phone but I can still hear him because the wall doesn't quite match up with the window. I can't really hear what he's saying; just his voice. If he closes his door while on the phone, I turn on the radio on my desk to make sure actual words don't get through.

I have a very good relationship with my boss. He knows that I can work independently and be productive. I am open to new things and am often the guinea pig to test out new ideas. There is nothing but positive feedback about me and my dept. in our area. However, when things are this slow nobody can really tell what decisions corporate will make to save a buck.

This morning, his door was closed and he was on the phone with his boss at corporate. My printer is located next to that area by the window where his voice comes into my office. I walked over to pick up what I had printed and overheard what sounded like, "I'm not going to do that to her. She's in the middle of a nasty divorce." There was a pause and when he spoke again he said, "He is one of the most respected people in this area."

I went back to my desk and continued working. After a few minutes, what he said fully registered in my mind. I'm pretty sure I clearly heard "her" and "divorce". Also, I know who the "respected" person is that he was talking about.

My first instinct is that he was talking about me. But his next comment was obviously not about me so perhaps I didn't hear correctly because I really wasn't trying to listen in the first place. However, he could have been talking about me and then the subject changed to the other person.

All I know is if they were talking about me, corporate wanted to shut down my dept. and my boss was fighting for me. (He's always had my back.) He has a fair amount of pull so that is in my favor. But, nobody is immune when business is slow.

Here's my question:
If I get laid off during this divorce, how bad will it be for me? Will it affect my getting custody of D? Will NH have to pony up with the support and carry health insurance for me? I have health issues and cannot go without health insurance. If I have a period with no insurance, I won't be able to get insurance in the future due to having a pre-existing condition.

I'm not overly worried at this point because I may have not heard correctly and if I'm correct, I know my boss will do whatever he can to protect me at this time. Because there are no guarantees, I would like to be as prepared as possible in case I do lose my job. I'm one of those "plan for the worst case scenario and hope for the best" type of people.

1ablueprincess · Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 195

I dont believe you being layed off will effect custody. It usually just effects support issues, but especially if it is not your fault and you try to obtain other employment it should not effect your support issues at all. I am NOT an attorney, but have been doing divorce, custody, support, etc. issues in my own case in California for 4 years.
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livedthroughit · Joined: 20 Feb 2007 Posts: 947

I agree with 1BluePrincess -- as long as you are laid off or terminated, it shouldn't have any negative effects on your case, but could affect child support percentages. If you decided to quit your job, that would be a different story.

But as 1Blue said, every state is a little different and sometimes it in varies a bit by county.

Summer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 877

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vmm · Joined: 07 Aug 2007 Posts: 175

When my N got himself layed off the court offered him more custody time because he said that he wanted the children with him and if the court "ordered" differently he'd appeal based on the fact that he opposed to strangers watching his children when he was at home all day to watch them. It actually worked for him so that I had to inform him anytime I worked more than 8 hour in any day, so that he could have custody of the children on those days. Also, the court did not order him to pay any day care costs saving N thousands of dollars a year.

superheromom · Joined: 11 Aug 2007 Posts: 74

Thanks for the input...that makes me feel better. I'm sure I'll talk with my atty. sometime early next week because there's a lot going on right now. I'm going to tell him that I have reason to believe a lay off may happen as an FYI only. It sounds like the support amount and custody of D won't be devasting to me but I'm worried about my medical coverage. I'm expensive in the health/medical area and there's nothing I can do about that. Hopefully, the court order N to carry my insurance until I find another job.

My atty. said that since N left knowing full well that I may not be able to work to support myself in the future, the court could view that as abandonment. If I become disabled and have not remarried, N would have to carry my medical and pay spousal support. Hopefully, that will also apply now if there is a lay off until I can find something else.