Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Mine was/is a retired cop from Germany...now he is a corporate broker. Every time he brags to me about how much money he is making (looking for that NS again!) I just respond with "Ka Ching!! I can feel my child support cheque going up again!! Thanks for telling me that!" hehehehehe

Found this old thread; thought I'd give it a bump....

My Ns....

Preacher (hypocrite)
Professional Hypochondriac (Now on 'disability')
Car Salesman (puke!)

My Nfather was a teacher!!! He yelled at kids. He taught 12th grade and only worked 1/2 the day. The rest of the day he was supposed to be going out and doing job visitations (which he never did). The kids he had only went to school half the day, then to work the other half. He worked a whopping 5 hour day at most. My exhusband actually went to the school where my father taught and said all my Nfather did was yell at kids.

Self employed now


Owns small constrution company - mostly commercial work

But he doesn't "WORK" now cause he's the owner and he has to keep the company running by driving around all day doing God knows what.

I read where N's can spend abundant hours WORKINg and accomplishing nothing.

His guys tell me this all the time now,,,sad really

OH - he is also building a BAR-B-Que joint - the debt of which he is making me share in the divorce

My N is a marriage counsellor. How ironic!!!!! Not only has he messed up our marriage but he is teaching "everything he knows" to people truly searching for help in their marriage.

My N is a marriage counsellor. How ironic!!!!! Not only has he messed up our marriage but he is teaching "everything he knows" to people truly searching for help in their marriage.

"But he doesn't "WORK" now cause he's the owner and he has to keep the company running by driving around all day doing God knows what.

I read where N's can spend abundant hours WORKINg and accomplishing nothing"
I laughed when I read this N is a brickie and self employed but you would swear he runs a big construction company the way he carried on.

I laughed at newlife's post because its exactly what he did, drove around all day doing god knows what spending hours working and accomplishing nothing. So true.

My NM was an air traffic controller - a career perfectly suited to both her NPD tendencies and her OCPD tendencies. That she got to order (mostly male) pilots (known for being egotistical themselves) around, and the "importance" of the job, and the fact that she was a woman successfully competing with men satisfied her N grandiosity, and the necessary attention to detail and zero-tolerance for error suited her OCPD traits. She was, by all accounts I know of, very competent, hard-working, and performed her job very well.

Her personal relationships ranged from bitterly disappointing to downright disastrous. She worked in another city from where she housed her mother and son (me), and I only saw her on her days off, when, as I remember, she alternately slept, barked orders, and yelled & screamed a lot.

lucky2escape wrote:"But he doesn't "WORK" now cause he's the owner and he has to keep the company running by driving around all day doing God knows what.

I laughed at newlife's post because its exactly what he did, drove around all day doing god knows what spending hours working and accomplishing nothing. So true.

Yup....again, their predictability is outrageous!!! Before he got on disability, mine "worked construction". (sweeping the jobsite?)

Anyway, he would try to exude his importance by calling me on his cell, then "abruptly" ending the conversation, saying he had to "take care of something important." (which meant walking into a McDonald's to get lunch.)

Loooooser!

Has an MBA and was Director of Auditing for a major US corporation (#68 on the Fortune 500 list) for 15 years. That is, before ex-wife #2 "caused him to lose that dream job by constantly calling his superiors to tell them that N was in jail for beating her" - which he denies he beat her, but he was in jail for it - not once, but twice. He claimed someone else did it, but she blamed it on him

Now, he's an Auditing manager for # 426 on the Fortune 500. Not a director - yet.... I am sure he will schmooze and snowball his way there though. It's all about how good he looks or how impressive he seems - on paper, to other people, etc...

so, he's a professional bullshitter.