Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Here's a list of ways we may be thinking like a victim and examples of how to reframe our approach to life.

Owners versus Victims

Owners create while Victims react.
Owners believe that they have substantial control of their actions while Victims believe other people or events have control of their life.
Owners are "building a life" while Victims are "making a living".
Owners "get something from" every experience while Victims "try to get through" experiences.
Owners "use life" to gain while Victims feel "used by life".
Owners "want to" do things while Victims think they "should", "ought to" do things.
Owners are focussed on their actions while Victims are pre-occupied with lots of events.
Owners "buy in" to change and new actions while Victims use the "wait and see" approach.
Owners use language of possible while Victims use the language of restriction.
Owners deliberately jumpstart a positive cybernetics loop while Victims enter into negative cybernetics loop.
Owners think positive and optimistically while Victims think negatively and pesimistically.

I found this on
http://www.econsultant.com/articles/own ... ctims.html
Steve Chandler uses this concept in his various seminars.
More information about his books and seminars is available on his website.