Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

longing4peace · Joined: 06 May 2008 Posts: 2

I am longing to know the experiences of other people who have told the narcissist that he is one.

I want to go out on a ledge and tell my husband that I know he is.

I want to give him a list of all the symptoms and go over them with him.

What do you think he will do?

Cookie2 · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1378

Hi and welcome.....After many years on this board I would say he will eventually say the very same things about YOU.....To whomever will listen......and no matter how he would 'seem' to listen and understand believe me this will give him n injury...He'll probably come back at you with a vengence(if he is a true n)An n I once knew I caught her in a few lies and called her on it....told her flat out she was a liar.......All hell broke out......this is seen as n injury.......read thru the links at the bottom of the index page...youll find it......I definantly advise against doing this......It will serve no good purpose.....
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I have a photographic memory....I just don't have same day service.....................Cookie

samvaknin · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 2213

Question:

What is the reaction of a narcissist likely to be when confronted with your texts or book?

Answer:

It takes a major life crisis to force the narcissist to face up to his False Self: a painful breakdown of a close (symbiotic) relationship, a failure (in business, in a career, in the pursuit of a goal), the death of a parent, imprisonment, or a disease.

Under normal circumstances, the narcissist denies that he is one (denial defence mechanism) and reacts with rage to any hint at being so diagnosed. The narcissist employs a host of intricate and interwoven defence mechanisms: intellectualisation, projection, projective identification, splitting, repression and denial (to name but a few) – to sweep his narcissism under the psychological rug.

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq7to9.html

Narcissists, Disagreement and Criticism

http://samvak.tripod.com/criticismdisagreement.html

The Intermittent Explosive Narcissist - Narcissistic Injury and Narcissistic Rage

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal86.html

Falldowngetup · Joined: 27 Apr 2008 Posts: 1

I think it is a bad idea to tell him.

I even gently asked h do you think something may be wrong with you, and I admitted what was wrong with me in same conversation.

an UNQUIVOCABLE NO!

Cookie2 · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1378

Hi falling down....Welcome to the group......No it's never a good idea to tell them what they are......denial is too strong....and it would NEVER do any good so what would the reason be for doing it? Again I want to welcome you to the group.....
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I have a photographic memory....I just don't have same day service.....................Cookie

longing4peace · Joined: 06 May 2008 Posts: 2

I just keep thinking that maybe he can be the only one that can handle this, and be different.

Sam did it, didn't he????

Go ahead, laugh. I know how stupid I sound.

I won't have the guts to do it. I just like to fantasize.

thegabrielle77 · Joined: 19 Oct 2007 Posts: 409

longing4peace

Losingher · Joined: 23 May 2008 Posts: 8

I confronted someone that I think is an N. He just twisted thingsand said I was a dumb*** and to leave him alone. He discounted anything I said. You can't penetrate them! If you can it must be a slow process! I only try to save my daughter who seems brainwashed by him. It is a losing battle they only give you the time of day if you provide them with something they can use. They are selfish and vindictive. A normal person will not survive them!