Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Milly1956 · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 571

I remember this article and what an eye opener and 'validation' it was for me too. It is sad if it has disappeared. I hope newbies here read it.

snowynight · Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 4:48 am Post subject:

I am loving the woman savers site. Thanks for the link!! Great stories and articles, and mostly having to do with N's!! They also have a database of 25,000 guys written up by women with names and reviews!!! Too funny. Great site.

lynniekinns · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 35

HAVE NOT BEEN ON IN A FEW DAYS, WORKING ON INCOME TAX RETURNS..... FUN!!! YOU GUYS AMAZE ME WITH THE POSTS, EXACTLY WHAT I NEED TO HEAR RIGHT NOW. AGAIN THANKS EVERYONE1 again amazing!!!!!!!!!

samvaknin · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 2213

Question:

If the narcissist is as abusive as you say – why do we react so badly when he leaves?

Answer:

At the commencement of the relationship, the Narcissist is a dream-come-true. He is often intelligent, witty, charming, good looking, an achiever, empathetic, in need of love, loving, caring, attentive and much more. He is the perfect bundled answer to the nagging questions of life: finding meaning, companionship, compatibility and happiness. He is, in other words, ideal.

It is difficult to let go of this idealized figure. Relationships with narcissists inevitably and invariably end with the dawn of a double realisation. The first is that one has been (ab)used by the narcissist and the second is that one was regarded by the narcissist as a disposable, dispensable and interchangeable instrument (object).

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq68.html

These may be of help - click on the links:

The Narcissist's Victims

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq38.html

Victim Reactions

http://personalitydisorders.suite101.com/article.cfm/victim_reactions

Mourning the Narcissist

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq68.html

The Three Forms of Closure

http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse17.html

Back to La-la Land

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal78.html

The Spouse/Mate/Partner of the Narcissist

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq6.html

Divorcing the Narcissist and the Narcissistic Psychopath - How Do I Get Rid of Him?

http://samvak.tripod.com/5.html

Traumas as Social Interactions

http://samvak.tripod.com/trauma.html

How Victims are Affected by Abuse

http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily21.html

How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily22.html

How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Recovery and Healing

http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily23.html

Surviving the Narcissist

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq80.html

The Inverted Narcissist - Codependence and Relationships with Abusive Narcissists

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq66.html

Spousal Abuse and Domestic Violence - Narcissism, Pathological Narcissism, The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), the Narcissist, and Relationships with Abusive Narcissists and Psychopaths

http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily.html

The Cult of the Narcissist

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal79.html

Take care.

Sam

Liamo 722 · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 77 Location: Ireland

Guys
When I read that article first, it really helped me when I was "missing him"???? I printed it off and carried it in my purse. I found it terrific to keep grounded.
Liamo
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Sandy