Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

tired of the pain · Joined: 12 May 2008 Posts: 22

I had to get another court order of protection for my kids and me from her. She threatened my daughter and I have to protect my kids at all costs. I cant believe this is my life right now. I also cant believe that I miss the good part of her loving me when I know it was all FAKE !!!!

NancyCT · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1308 Location: Connecticut, USA

What do you mean she threatened your daughter? Is your daughter safe? Protective orders don't protect. They're not useful at all in situations of actual danger. What are you doing to protect your daughter? How old is your daughter? Does she know that she's in danger? Has your X abused your child in the past? Do you think there is a real threat of danger here?

tired of the pain · Joined: 12 May 2008 Posts: 22

yes my daughter is safe. me ex girlfriend did threaten to hurt her. I now have another order of protection against her. i have spoken to the chief of police about all of this and he says that he has talked to me ex girlfriend and that she will now stay away from my daughter.i hope so but i know how she can be. when my daughter was living with her mom she was abused and i have had custody for a long time now. My ex wife did not protect our children against her boyfriend. I will protect my children against my ex girlfriend. It makes me sick that sometimes i still miss her...

Stand4Change · Joined: 09 May 2008 Posts: 67

Gosh, I don't know what to do with that "missing her" stuff.

Here's what worked for me. When my ex moved out, I was in the kitchen feeding the baby. He walked past me and out to his car. He sat in the driveway for about 10 minutes. I could see the car through the window. I was crying softly and thinking was I wrong? Is he going to walk in the door and say he is sorry and he doesn't want to break up our family and he wants to try therapy and to change, and then looking at my daughter's face, I decided I would give him another chance.

He walked back in, said, "Wow! I didn't realize how hard it would be to leave this HOUSE! I forgot something, I'll just go get it."

That's all it took for me. My blood ran cold. No regrets.

btw, the "house" is an inexpensive starter home in a mixed-race ordinary subdivision
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thegabrielle77 · Joined: 19 Oct 2007 Posts: 409

tired of the pain,