Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Em · Joined: 27 Apr 2008 Posts: 2

Hi, I am new to posting messages this is my first time, but I have read some post on this site and think that maybe someone can give me some advice. My boyfriend of nine years is a cruel N and I feel very lost I no longer know if I am really mad like he says. He has agreeed to give me some space but he has called about 10 times today to go on and on at me and tell me everything that is wrong with me and how it is all my fault. He keeps saying he is going to take our child away from me and then when I am scared he gets angry and says Im making him out to be a bad person he has done so many bad things to me but now he has convinced me that other people get treated alot worse than me and I should think myself lucky. The thing is everyone else thinks he is a wonderful person as he constanly puts on a act and then he uses that to make me think that im mad I just dont know anymore. If any one has any advice on how to deal with him I would love to hear it. I am very greatful to have found this site tonight.

littlecat2 · Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 12:43 pm Post subject:

Hi there .... you don't say how old you are, nor where you're from. I sense maybe from Britain, since you said "he thinks you're mad." "Mad" isn't a term used in the states often for mental illness. Anyhow, it sounds to me like you've got a real Psychopath here. I think you need to break free of him, once and for all. Now, since I don't know anything about you, or your age, I'm going to just take a shot in the dark here ... seek the advice of a good, qualified lawyer in this. If this guy truly is a P, then he will harass you, possibly stalk you, possibly try to take your child from you, and generally make your life a living hell (sounds to me like it's pretty close to that now.) So, I'd get a family law attorney, and get some input from that person. Then, take steps to break free, legally, from this guy. He is truly a real sicko. Keep posting and let us know how things are going.
abby
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Em · Joined: 27 Apr 2008 Posts: 2

Hi abbey, Thankyou for your reply im 25 years old and i live in britain. Having a really hard time at the moment but this site has helped me alot reading peoples storys has really been good for me. I dont really know what to do at the moment im finding it hard to get him out of my life he is a controlling person and I have found that the best way to keep him from getting so angry is to agree that everything is my fault and at the moment that seems to be working. He did agree to see a lawyer so we could arrange suppervised visits for him to see our daughter, but now he has changed his mind again. The problem is that he is very charming and most people think he is a lovely man...but I know the real person that lies beneath his act. I think if it ends up turning into a court case he will do everything in his power to destroy me. The other day just because I would not agree with him on some thing (which was about a court case he had for drink driving...which he said was not his fault he was druged!) nothing is ever his fault. He said he was taking my baby went storming towards her room, when I screamed and said please dont take my baby he started strangling me till I could not breath saying that when I passed out he would tie me up and when I woke up I would be stuck there with him, so I was fighting to stay awake until the blood vessels in my eyes were all burst I broke free and ran out the house but only for a second coz I had to go back for my beautiful baby. When i went back he said it was all my fault coz when he said he was taking our daughter I screamed and that is what made him do it. This story has been going on for years but I have finally had enough I want out but im very trapped so many things have happened I feel like my sprit is broken. I just look forward to the day im free. Anyway he has not been back for about a week now just calling everyday instead. I just hope it gets easier. Thankyou again for replying its good to talk to someone, im very greatful for this message board its what has been keeping me going. Em