Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

femfree · Site Admin Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 654

From "Learning"

There are many thing that I want to say with this letter.

First I greatly appreciated your web side and all your researches on this subject and your contribution to people like me I was very ignorant to this subject .

I would like to tell you a little about me and why I write you.

I sadly realized that my sister had this is a psychopath and make me understand what she always behave this way .

I would tell you a little about my family and specialty about my sister .
We are from south america my Mother is the older of four sisters ,She was a beautiful women. She born with some kind of disability ,she did not perform well at school, She had every material thing that she desire. My grandfather spoiled her .
She had me my father did no want to marry her She married my brother father who was a alcoholic and I went to live with grandparents on my Mom side .My mother got together with the painter and had my sister. My brother went to boarding school we go to visit my Mother on the weekend my Mom definitely was a narcissi, My mother did no take care my sister she did a terrible job she scream abuse her,treating her as her service, She always make a problem of anything ,if she dont get her way she scream and insult to everyone until she get her way,the maid take care of my sister

I got married at 20 and move to Hawaii with my husband I have 2 children's .

My grandfather died I maintain my Mother and sister .
My sister had a relationship and had a son .
Three years ago my sister went to live at Miami temporally to work and she abandon his son with my Mother.

She was an a great relationship ; but got involved with-other men who never work lied manipulated, now she had a baby with him.
The past three years I spend hour and hours trying to help my sister finding her a job and house a lawyer her attitude is so irrational ,she never follow up with things ,she don’t have remorse ,to left his son in Peru, she lied,never learn for experiences ,never had a stable job ,her words don't measure her actions,she manipulated ,scream and insult and lied ,and she always is the victim she said bad thing about me to his son .
I maintain his son in Peru my Mother .

She is trying to sell my Mother apartment ,my Mother put everything at my sister name many years ago.
I training to bring his son to live me she did not want to sing the papers .

She is subtracting so much of my energy time and money .
I in lost here
I have a question did can she be treated ,what is the treatment?
How I can convince her find help?
How I make her understand that his son need a stable environment?

What type of relationships I can have with her?
How I can get more educated about this subject?
I need for her to sing the permit so his son come here ,to a stable environment.
I need for her to sing the paper my nephew is a terrible environment .

I in need of education and advisor,any professional help will be extremely helpful.

Thank you very much
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Nothing is easier than to denounce the evildoer;
nothing is more difficult than to understand him.
Fyodor Dostoevsky

samvaknin · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 2015

Hi,

This forum is not for multiple questions. You amy wish to ask the managers for a weekly case study where I will be able to tackle in depth all the issues you raised.

In the meantime, click on these links:

Female Narcissists

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq34.html

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Toxic Relationships with Malignant Narcissists and Psychopaths
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How to Recognize a Narcissist Before It is Too Late?

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4976

Narcissists and Personality disordered Mates, Spouses, and Partners

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5013

Narcissists, psychopaths, sex, and marital fidelity

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4920

Narcissistic and Psychopathic Parents and Their Children

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4727

Projection and Projective Identification - Abuser in Denial

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5002

Approach-Avoidance Repetition Complex and Fear of Intimacy

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5000

The Narcissist or Psychopath Hates your Independence and Personal Autonomy

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4959

I miss him so much - I want him back!

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4934

Guilt? What guilt?

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4931

How Victims are Pathologized and re-abused by the System

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5068

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The Narcissist and Psychopath in Society
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The Narcissist and Psychopath as Criminals

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5003

The Narcissist is Above the Law

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4983

The Narcissist as Liar and Con-man

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4951

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Pathological Narcissism, Narcissistic Personality disorder and Psychopathy
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Does the Narcissist Have a Multiple Personality (Dissociative Identity
Disorder)?

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4950

Narcissists as Drama Queens

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4948

The Narcissist as Know-it-all

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4945

The Narcissist as VAMPIRE or MACHINE

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4944

Narcissists and Psychopaths Devalue Their Psychotherapists

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4939

Violent, Vindictive, Sadistic, and Psychopathic Narcissists

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4938

Portrait of the Narcissist as a Young Man

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5048

Grandiosity, Fantasies, and Narcissism

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4923

Narcissists and Emotions

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5248

Narcissists and Mood Disorders

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5067

Take care.

Sam