Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Cookie2 · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1378

Latley I have seen some members who say they don't post much(for whatever their reasons may be) and this is NOT unusual.....It's not intended to be a bad thing...in fact it usually isn't.Reading(lurking) on a site such as this is very common....some just want your knowledge...some just don't feel they have anything to say or to add....many are depressed of which I think we can all understand why they would be....Remember this.....don't post anything too private or anything you would not say to another face to face....We who post a lot feel like we are a family and we are....But there are always others reading what we have to say.....I tend to forget this and I'm sure I'm not alone Laughing

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I have a photographic memory....I just don't have same day service.....................Cookie

Lukky · Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 2407

I couldnt agree with you more Cookie,,,, great advice!!

I guess its easy to question why someone would want to lurk around who didnt have a genuine purpose for being here.... but we have to remember I guess that there are many out there who wouldnt be considered normal!!
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Cookie2 · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1378

Hey Lukky

I lurked b4 I ever posted....I think you said you did too Laughing

Lots of people do that...how else do they know if they want to join? Theres nothing wrong with it...theres a lot to read and learn here....more power to them Laughing

and unfortunatly there are creeps too Embarassed

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I have a photographic memory....I just don't have same day service.....................Cookie

Lukky · Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 2407

Yeppp I lurked for a couple of months before I joined Cookie!!! I was way too nervous to talk to you guys...LOL..(plus I was also in the midst of one huge train wreck at the time!!!

I read and read and read!!! and then I found the message board..(other Psychopath site I am talking for those who dont know) I tell ya I was hooked!! I would come home from work and I just had too see what was happening in everyones lives and could sooooooo relate to what people were saying....... Then sometimes there would be a humourous thread and I would laugh myself silly,,, dying to add something but I wasnt a member of course so couldnt and WELL.... you guys lured me in...LOL I had to join....... But I tell ya it was pretty scary at the time....

But yepppppp I bet there are the creeps out there lurking... and there may well be some in here as well!! So in that respect,,,, we need to be careful......
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stillsmilen · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 355

Good advice there!!!!! Wink

You're one smart Cookie!!!!! Wink

Pun intended Laughing

stillsmilen
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I made him very sorry that he chose me as a victim!!!
He may have knocked me down, but I got right back up... And kicked his a**!!
(metaphorically speaking ofcourse, but if he hadn't gotten the PPO, I probably would have done it literally too!!)

sara · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 181 Location: USA

Great advise Cookie!

I would love to think that this is a safe place, but we all know how cunning the NP's are. And what a great place to find someone who is vulnerable! I just think it is wise to be very careful about posting too much information about our locations, easily identified userid, etc.

I would just hate to see someone get identified by another N or P. We've all been through enough.

That is not how we want to see the "cookie crumble." I had to say that since stillsmillen came up with such a clever pun. Very Happy

hugs,
sara

lemondroppr · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 1427

I lurked for quite a while before I joined too. I just read. I couldn't get enough info. Heheheh, I remember feeling really goofy posting my first message saying Hi! I'm here!

I felt sneaky not letting ppl know I was out there and just taking it all in but not "joining in". Oh well........ now you can't get rid of me! Na ner na ner na ner!

And Ms. Cookie, very good advice, about being careful not to disclose too much personal and identifiable information. That's not usually a wise thing to do.

Group hugs Smile

Lemon

Lukky · Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 2407

OMG Lemon.....I used to feel like some stalker watching in on other peoples lives by not being a member....... but it was like this haven where I got disappear away from what was happening.......

I cant remember my first post in detail......I do remember it took me one hell of a long time to type tho and that fear that no one would bother to respond......but hey ... that never happened and here we all are!!!.... Its you and the Cookies of this site that make sure that never happens girlfriend
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stillsmilen · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 355

I have to admit, I almost hope my XNP is on here reading what I've written about him!!! Wink

I'm sure it'd be raising his blood pressure!!! And adding to the deflation of his grandious fantasies!! Laughing

Because every word of it is true!!! He hasn't sued me for defamation yet, he doesn't want to give me that opportunity, to go into court and prove what I've said is true, because I'd nail his ass to the wall, and he knows it!!! Wink

stillsmilen
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I made him very sorry that he chose me as a victim!!!
He may have knocked me down, but I got right back up... And kicked his a**!!
(metaphorically speaking ofcourse, but if he hadn't gotten the PPO, I probably would have done it literally too!!)

Lukky · Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 2407

Well Still ,,,I know mine aint here cause he couldnt even get onto Ebay without me getting him there..... but hey between us all I reckon we gonna kick that guys butt in court!!!!! You gonna have all us Pseudo Lawyers there representing ya girlfriend!!!
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Cookie2 · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1378

And hey...Look at US...Were all Nice people Laughing

and we all lurked for a bit...I had my own site for spouses of Bipolars so I dont remember my 1st post on here to be scary for me because I was sooo used to running that site...It was just that my x didnt sound quite like the rest of their x's....bipolars arent always abusive but for the longest time I felt mine just DIDNT fit....so I did some more investigating and ended up here Laughing

but lurked 1st.....I posted this because I have recieved pm's from some of our old members who used to post but now(for good reasons) don't....Maybe they just dont feel the need to...but they tell me they still read Laughing

ALL THE TIME! Laughing

I know I forget that others can see what we say even tho we arent thinking that theyre there....We DO have a lot of fun and I think it's GREAT Laughing

and your all my cyberfamily Laughing

and ALL there when I need you Laughing

What else could I want Question

I love you ALL Laughing

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Cookie2 · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1378

and YES Lukky.....Creeps are out there as well Embarassed

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I have a photographic memory....I just don't have same day service.....................Cookie

survivormomoftwo · Joined: 20 Feb 2007 Posts: 311 Location: USA

I might be missing something but is there something going on?

Should I be worried? I feel very comfortable here and I don't say anything that I haven't said in speeches with victims or anyone else for that matter!!
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ocean · Joined: 12 Feb 2007 Posts: 320

Thanks for that gentle reminder, there are days I feel just the need to read, then other times i feel inclined to post, sometimes the pain i feel is too intense and the sadness over what is happening in others lives is too much, i cannot finish reading.

As for the regular posters, thank goodness for you all your strength has kept many going, and been lifegiving to me.

I hope to encourage others to find peace and a life minus abuse,

Stay well
ocean

Cookie2 · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1378

Momoftwo...Nothings going on that any of us know of Very Happy

But like Matilda said...this is a public forum and others can(an do) read without even joining.....Windsong says sites like this tend to draw mentally ill people to it(no..Im not saying ANYONE is mentally ill here now Laughing

) Experience has taught us long termers to be carefull...so I'm sharing that with the members....I hope you do feel safe here and in many respects you ARE...but if you wouldnt say it to someone in another public place you might want to think about saying it here too Exclamation

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I have a photographic memory....I just don't have same day service.....................Cookie