Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Lukky · Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 2407

Go Gals!!! Don't you let them Potholders hold ya back Hon!! Rolling Eyes

Ok question here: What exactly is a pot holder?? Is that like some sort of oven cloth that you hold the pot handle with??

My problem is that all my pot handles keep falling off!! I only have one pot that has a handle on it and thats cause the ExN took all the good pots and left me with the N like pots!! N like in that I bet he knew when I picked them up off the hot stove that the handles were likely to fall off and burn me!! Gosh he prolly loosened those handles!!...

Anyways if thats what potholders are I think I would prefer green and when I get some new pots WITH handles I can use my pretty green potholder to pick them pots up off the stove with confidence the handles won't fall off....

love yas

Lukky
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WindSong · Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 3:30 am Post subject:

Yes Lukky that is what we use them for getting pots of the stover or dishes out of the oven that are baked like cookies or roasts.

One question though, how do you pick up the hot things if you don't have your one potholder? Just one at a time or what? Seems like you would burn yourself!
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WindSong · Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 3:33 am Post subject:

Stover? WTH is a stover? LOL
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Lukky · Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 2407

I only have one Pot with a handle and no pot holder so I use a tea towel!! LOL !!

The thing is though Windy is that I don't much like cooking so having only one pot is kinda a convenient excuse not to do much cooking!! (ExN actually did me a big favour taking all the good pots!! Rolling Eyes

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We mainly have salads and stuff done in the oven or frying pan!! It all works out and we get to eat the occasional thing out of the one pot!! It a big pot though,,, huge infact!! Takes an age to boil anything in it and it doesn't have a lid!!
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WindSong · Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 3:45 am Post subject:

You sound like me lol hate cooking so the fact that I am lacking in decent kitchen equipment makes not much difference.

But JAYSUS if the microwave went down we'd die of hunger!

I'm going to bed kiddies. So I won't be answering any more threads tonight. I'm just exhausted.
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mikey#1 · Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 6:41 am Post subject:

Lukky and WindSong,

Why don't you and the kids come to my house for supper some night. I love to cook (I have been cooking since I was 10 years old). It is something that just seems to relax me. I only have myself to cook for and I always make too much. I am so use to cooking for 2 hungry boys. I am still learning to downsize my cooking skills. When I use to make spagehtti and meatballs I use to make about 90 to 100 meatbalss to go in my sauce. Yes, my boys like their meatballs with a little pasta and sauce. LOL

I love kitchen gadgets. I am dreaming of buying myself some new pots and pans in the next month or so. For Christmas my youngest son who is deployed to Iraq sent me this neat toaster that also will let me make poached eggs and/or boiled eggs. It has a meat warmer attached to it. I was so excited and happy. My oldest one laughed. Ah, that youngest son does know his Mom.

WindSong, goodnight I hope you have a good nights sleep. Lukky, enjoy your evening. I too am heading off to bed. I hope everyone has a peaceful night or day. Take care

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Kelly · Joined: 21 Feb 2008 Posts: 16

Okay, making potholders? I've always lacked that Martha Stewart gene.

My kitchen is cheery - painted yellow, my kitchen towels are pale green with a pastel floral pattern and my potholders match. I must confess though, I don't use the decorative, matching potholders because my cooking would ruin them. Instead, I dig out the old, crusty, burnt ones from the drawer.

Kelly

Serenity · Joined: 20 Feb 2008 Posts: 53

Crikey! With a name like Narcissus, it makes me wonder if you have the words 'deadbeat' and `loser' tattooed across your face in real life? And do you act haughty and confused when people then go onto treat you like a deadbeat or loser?

I think the big problem here is the label you give yourself. Obviously it won't be well received in a forum like this.

I don't think you're psychopath. They're supposed to be vaguely intelligent people.

Kelly · Joined: 21 Feb 2008 Posts: 16

Oh Serenity,

You win the Academy Award for best last line ever! I actually laughed out loud, and boy, did I need it!

BRAVA!
Kelly

Stacieb · Joined: 15 Aug 2007 Posts: 59

Narcissus,

In answer to your question: Yes I have been to a therapist as well as doing studying by myself, and have found that my ex partner does show many traits of a psychopath/narcissist.

Trying to diagnose a narcissist/psychopath is like trying to get blood from a stone. It is very difficult due to the narcissists manipulative nature.

Everybody on the planet has behaved in differing levels of narcissism. We are/have been all selfish from time to time, manipulative on the odd occassion, however when you are in an abusive relationship where you are constantly brainwashed, gaslighted and emotionally abused what would you call the person dishing that out? An a**hole, someone in a bad mood?

NO. if its a constant everyday occurance, where women/men are being abused in the same ways, you would start to see a profile/a pattern emerge, and that is what we ladies/men here have found.

A COMMON PATTERN/PROFILE IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS CALLED NARCISSISM.

Like I said it is very difficult for someone with narcissism/psychopathy to be diagnosed, so even if we did take our partners to therapy would it work!? in most cases NO!? would we get a diagnoses? NO AGAIN!

So we have as a group come together to gain insight, support, friendship and understanding with others who have been through the same plights and suffering we have.

It does not take a diagnoses from a professional therapist to tell you , that you have been emotionally , physically, abused.

Hare wrote his psychopathy checklist for a reason dude. And once you have read the material on narcissism and applied it to your situation you can make a healthy and informed decision regarding your partners behavioural profile.

Even therapists misdiagnose narcissism/they miss it / get it wrong/believe the person to be mentally healthy.

This is us trying to find answers, move on and find a common ground. Some of us have studied for years/weeks/months and we have all come to the same conclusion.

And thats my 2 cents.
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NancyCT · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1308 Location: Connecticut, USA

Tea towels work good too.

sweetcaroline51 · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 529 Location: Canada

..If it looks like a pot holder, hangs like a potholder, was made as a potholder, then it is probably a potholder.
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mikey#1 · Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 3:27 am Post subject:

Cookie2 · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1378

Caroline... Laughing

and Mikey......will you be serving spegetti?????? With or without farts????? OMG Windy...that line was/is amazing.... Laughing

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sweetcaroline51 · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 529 Location: Canada

......Cookie, definately with.....
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