Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

knoxy · Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 1047

Inspired by Purplegirl - and all of us - I wanted to make a thread that requires us to list the reasons - no matter how big or small - that we love ourselves today. A friend started this on another board and it's really helpful.

We can keep this as an ongoing thread. For some of us, this will be really difficult. I have been making these lists for weeks now and I've really felt a difference in how I feel - maybe it will help you too.

The list could include reasons why you are a good catch too. Smile

knoxy · Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 1047

I love myself today because:

- I am resourceful. I scored tickets to see the Foo Fighters perform at the Grammys tonight. And although I've had the flu, I am going!

- I have a great personality and people enjoy being around me.

- I try really hard to be a good person.

- I have great taste. Smile

- I like my hair and my eyes.

- I am witty and smart and a GREAT CATCH!

(your turn)

louxloux · Joined: 20 Jul 2007 Posts: 1531

I love myself because:

I am smart

observant

insightful

resourceful - great at researching and finding information

diplomatic

genuinely care about other people

good at my job

I started over from scratch in order to go back to school in a new field at 35 - which takes GUTS!

not affraid of change - see it as an opportunity

I refuse to 'settle'

I genuinely try my best to do the right thing, even when it's not easy

when I say something, I mean it

loux

sweetcaroline51 · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 540 Location: Canada

I love myself today because: (great idea)

-I am living a dignified life........again
-I have re-claimed my self respect
-I live with peace and quiet-have not had a bad word with anyone for over 2.5 years
-I am learning how to be alone
-I am so much wiser
-I now know what I want and don't want
-I do only what I am comfortable with-there is no one to push my boundaries any longer

Thank you for this reminder....there really is alot of good things that happen when you take the time to think about life post NP
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Caroline

purplegirl · Joined: 08 Apr 2007 Posts: 374

I love myself because:

I always tell the truth!
I am kind to other people!
I am good friend!
I do a good job at my new job!
I love to laugh!
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WHEN PEOPLE SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE
BELIEVE THEM!!!!!!

mommybunny1 · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 266 Location: Middle Atlantic

This is a good thread....one that I am not entirely comfortable with...but i will try anyway.

I am honest.
I am kind.
I am steadfast.
I am a good mom.
I am a good doctor.
I love to learn new things.
I love helping others still.
I have still have an essential goodness despite the mistreatment have recieved.
I like my own company.
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Mommybunny

NancyCT · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1370 Location: Connecticut, USA

I love myself because I'm all I've got. If I don't love myself, who will? I love myself for my flaws as well as my good traits, because they are part of who I am.

I love myself because I am a loving person.

knoxy · Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 1047

It's not comfortable to post this stuff. For some, they can't think of anything (which is why they need this more than ever). For others, it feels like bragging.

You are in a safe place here. We aren't judging each other. We're here to heal and support each other. We're here to remember what a treasure we are so we can make sure this sort of thing never happens again.

Today I love myself because:

- I have an incredible internal constitution.

- I make a mean pot of coffee.

- I am an interesting person.

- I LIVE LIFE and suck out every last drop of it.

- I can dance like MC Hammer.

- I am 37 years old and can talk music with any 13 year old, anytime. Smile

- I have great handwriting!

Milo · Joined: 23 Oct 2007 Posts: 822

Like Mommybunny, I'm a bit uncomfortable doing this, but here goes anyway:
* I love my family and friends and they love me.
* I'm kind, caring and giving.
* I'm intelligent and creative.
* I love animals.
* I can rhyme well, lol.

disengaging · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 1343

Interesting thread--thanks Knoxy!

Had to give this a lot of thought--to many it may seem just flat-out weird, but what I love my genetic makeup.

I love getting up in the morning and looking in the mirror to see both my parents, grandparents, and siblings reflected back to me. When I talk, I hear their voices, my words reflect theirs. Even though we're all separated by many miles, I always feel close to them.

I love my ADD! I can't imagine living without it. Doing just 1 thing at a time strikes me as boring. I love the fact that instead of fighting it, I've learned to embrace and make it work for me.

I love the fact that I woke up this morning with the desire to sing and dance--inbetween typing this, I've been dancing away to DDR! (Dance, Dance Revolution, my favorite video game, played with your feet.)

My mom once told me my 6th grade teacher had told her something very strange about me, that "You'll never have to worry about disengaging because no matter what, she'll never be unhappy. She could live alone, be a hermit in a cave, and as long as she's got that music of hers, she'll always be perfectly happy." It was especially odd coming from my 6th grade teacher, who always seemed to me to be profoundly unhappy. I would have liked to ask her what she meant by that, but shortly afterwards she committed suicide by carbon monoxide poisening, locking herself in her garage with her car running.

But the real truth is I've always know happiness is a choice, and I've always chosen to be happy with what I have, rather than unhappy with what I don't have, so I love the fact that rather than focus on the negatives, I tend to "count my blessings".

The blessing I love most of all is having been graced with having faith!

knoxy · Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 1047

((((((((((((Dis))))))))))))))))

Indeed. It's a choice.

I had a therapy session yesterday. My therapist asked what I would want my life to look like if I were really happy.

For the first time EVER - I looked her dead in they eye and said - I wouldn't change a damn thing.

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I MEANT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Holy poopskins!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay - onto the self love. I love myself today because:

- I'm a firecracker.

- I am fun.

- I am always growing and learning and willing to look at myself.

- I love to laugh.

- I have great friends.

- I am a joy hunter.

Smile

nemesis · Joined: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 535

This thread is hard for me... having been told since I was a little child that just about any one is better than me, including the family cat... learning about myself through the eyes of others...

I am not sure I can love anything about myself.

At the most, I can observe some positive qualities:

I am loving, loyal and kind
I am a life-long learner
I like to push the envelope
I don't back down from challenges.

purplegirl · Joined: 08 Apr 2007 Posts: 374

Because I like to have a good time!
I am loyal friend!
PurpleGirl
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WHEN PEOPLE SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE
BELIEVE THEM!!!!!!

louxloux · Joined: 20 Jul 2007 Posts: 1531

today's:

I am starting to see more and more glimpses of my old self again - and I LOVE THAT!! When not so stressed/perplexed - I am witty, fun, and really enjoy my own positive attitude. I connect with others better (not Ms. gloom and doom - who wants to connect with that?!? lol ). It really sucks when you can't stand your own attitude.

My daily Mantra/Motto for YEARS has been "This little light of mine - I'm gonna let it shine" - that light felt like it had flickered out... but I am starting to feel it brighten up again Smile

I feel like dancin Laughing

doctor · Joined: 12 Feb 2008 Posts: 53

To day,in subway, a youg boy,looking at me with a sweet smile ,said"how pretty you are".( Come sei carina)

I smiled too,but being an "old"woman replied" Thank you,but i could be
your mother".Going away,he said "No matter".

So I thought my eyes are bright again and I am regaining a bit of joy after five very painful months since the break up with a N.

Later,I explained to my psych.how i was (but only now I feel this way)
wasted in wrighting love letters with my favourite poetries to a man
who sent only banalities and sexual fantasies.

May I hope these are signals of myself love?

My story went luckily on,only for few months ,but left my heart broken,because N had been my first love and I 'd found him after 40 years.

Thanks

doc