Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Danielle · Joined: 02 May 2007 Posts: 33

I don't know where to start. I guess I'll just start from anywhere and not worry about making sense.

I cannot stand my father! He is so sick. He is twisted and convoluted.

What makes it worse is that he's a part of the family business! How the heck can I run a family business when there's a P who wants to enforce his twisted logic and agenda on the business? Actually, when the man doesn't get his way, he threatens to take the business away from me. Hah! I actually got intimidated when he said that, then several days later I realized, how the heck can he take the business from me when I'm the President and Chairperson, owning majority stock while he owns only one token stock, just to qualify him to be on the Board. It's amazing how I can let him bully me.

I had the most horrible Christmas! In religious terminology, my family desecrated and defiled what to me is a very holy occasion. Sickos.

I had to move out of the sick family's house (my father's house where my demented mother (No sarcasm here. Yes, she's suffering from dementia.), N sister and 10 year old niece, who's a budding P live) so that I can recover from the trauma I suffered staying there for four months! Can you imagine living four months with a full blown P father, N sister and budding junior P niece?

Now the P father wants to get involved with the business. He feels he has the right to do this, even though he supposedly "gave" the business to me and my siblings, but you know how P's are -- when they're in a bad mood, they take back what they give. It's a good thing I had all agreements done legally! He cannot "take the business back" from me or sell it from under me. He has no legal power. Yay! You have to have legal agreements with P's to protect yourself! It's a good thing I listened to my instincts way back when the business was being established.

With regard to my sister, oh my gosh, what an N! She is so self-serving, self absorbed and has no conscience about stepping on others to get ahead. I am shocked the more I discover about her.

So the four months I spent with my extremely sick family in L.A. showed me that I really don't have a "family". I happen to be related to them by blood, but I cannot expect them to be family to me (e.g. supportive, helpful, etc.) The lesson learned is: DO NOT RELY ON FAMILY! THEY WILL NOT CHANGE!

So here I am picking up the pieces and discerning what I'm going to do next. I need to take care of myself. The family business cannot afford to employ me full time, which is why I'm back in the states. I am thinking of starting my own business here. All I know is that I cannot rely on family to understand. When I told my father that the business could not employ me full time, but that I can manage it remotely, he responded, "Okay, I'm taking over and taking the business away from you." Yeah right. How the heck can he run a business when he can't even manage his own affairs? He can't even clean his toilet or remove the urine smell from his bedroom. He can't even manage his finances because of his compulsive gambling problem. He can't even fix the broken glass in his windows for the last five years or fix the broken refrigerator which emits warm air -- why? Because he spends all his money in the casino! How the heck can he manage a business? That's like asking a kindergartener to go straight to graduate school. Whacko.

Okay, I am very, very, very, very angry at my father. I am dumbfounded to realize how insensitive, uncaring, mean, abusive and self-serving he can be. I am equally angry at my sister for being such a traitor. She sided with my father, even if it meant lying and being a hypocrite (I won't get into the details of what happened). She's a liar!

Sick family.

Okay, I need to cool off and read something inspiring.

I also need to divorce myself from my family. They are literally POISON to me! How can people be so evil? How can family members be such TRAITORS?

Oh, and the budding little P niece. I foresee ugly outcomes in the near future: pregnant at the age of 12 or 13, AIDS, jail, drug addict, criminal -- all because she is under the supervision and influence of a P and an N!

Please keep me in your prayers. I have been extremely poisoned by my family. I need to recover.

Danielle

movedon · Site Admin Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 827

Hi,
I can understand your anger, it would make me mad to, the people that should be there for you, are not there. I know how that feels.
Think about what you want to do and go your own way, if that's what makes you happy, and that's the main thing in all this, your own peace of mind. Reading through your post I picked up on a point you may have already covered but just in case I will ask you, as you say your Father has a gambling problem aren't you afraid that he will use family business money for his gambling? he may not but you know him best, in my dealings with gamblers they will take, from anywhere to feed their addiction, so a word of caution there.
I am sorry you have had such a bad time and they ruined your holiday
OK that's gone now but make sure next year it will be a good one for you.

Welcome back
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Movedon
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Danielle · Joined: 02 May 2007 Posts: 33

Movedon,

(I love your nickname, btw.) Yes, I am very concerned about my father's gambling addiction, which is why I don't have him on the bank account.

Danielle

movedon · Site Admin Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 827

Knew you would have thought about it, but I had to check.
Thanks for replying, and hope all goes well for you.
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Movedon
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