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louxloux · Joined: 20 Jul 2007 Posts: 1522

Law of Attraction: Sincerely intend only good from your heart and good will come your way (by louxloux)

We've all experienced some event in our lives that was harmful, devastating, horrific and/or tragic... whether it manifested in physical, emotional or psychological (or all of the above). Reacting negatively to such things is normal ("Normal people have very strong reactions when exposed short OR long term to pathological persons. In fact, it is normal to have these kinds of reactions and un-pathological persons SHOULD have strong reactions to abnormal behavior. That means you aren't pathological!" - source: http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2007/11/should-i-react-this-way.html )

Forgive yourself of your own reactions - no matter how much they were 'out of character' and/or suprising to even you. YOU ARE HUMAN. You reacted as any human would to such a negative and harmful event. Acknowledge that, accept it and then STOP!

There IS truth in the statement "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". There is truth in it BECAUSE it is NOT normal/human nature to react with kindness to scorn... and believe me, a true predator not only KNOWS this, but COUNTS on it. One example: in a previous conversation with a pathological ex, he told me I was acting 'crazy' (the reason why we could not get back together). I responded "you do realize, that if you treat the woman you are scamming now in the very manner you have treated me, she would react 'crazy' too" - his response was "yes, I do realize that". IT WAS/IS INTENTIONAL ON HIS PART.

Negativity attracts negativity. If you get stuck in victim mentality, you will stay there! Instead of focusing on 'poor me, I was treated so wrongly'... focusing on the pain and blame - shift your focus to THE BLESSING of the situation or event. Say to yourself 'yea, so n so really screwed me over BUT Thank GOD I found out who they really are and what they are all about! Because of that, they will NEVER be able to harm me again'. FOCUS on the BLESSING - which, more than likely, is the REASON for the negative event in the first place... to forewarn you and/or spare you from ongoing or future harm / turmoil.

If someone has profitted in some way from harming you.... REMEMBER: there are no true long term or eternal benefits from ill-gotten gains! ESPECIALLY for repeat or serial offenders (those that never learn from the consequences of their own behaivor).

"19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. "
Romans 12 (King James Version)

Sooner or later (in God's Time) there will be a high price to pay for the lies, deception and betrayal exacted for those ill-gotten goods. Remember Karma: What goes around ALWAYS comes back around at some point in time. Do not muddy yourselves with revenge, resentment, jealousy or hate - those things only harm YOU and your spirit .... they do nothing to the predator except give their behavior VALIDATION in the eyes of others who do not know the truth of the ENTIRE situation or event (only half truths or one sided info). Give it to GOD. Continue to intend ONLY the best in your actions and positive things will come your way. If you intend revenge or to exact punishment on your own, negative things will come your way.

The Law of Attraction:

Positive attracts positive

Good attracts good

Negative attracts negative

Bad attracts bad

Remember:

Romans 12 (King James Version)

1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

3 For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.

4 For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office:

5 So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another.

6H aving then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith;

7 Or ministry, let us wait on our ministering: or he that teacheth, on teaching;

8 Or he that exhorteth, on exhortation: he that giveth, let him do it with simplicity; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that sheweth mercy, with cheerfulness.

9 Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.

10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;

11 Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord;

12 Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;

13 Distributing to the necessity of saints; given to hospitality.

14 Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not.

15 Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.

16 Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits.

17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.

18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.

21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

God does not want you to be bitter or to react from a bitter heart. God wants you to be happy, feel joy and live an abundant life! Let go and Let God!

Have a BLESSED day! Smile

louxloux · Joined: 20 Jul 2007 Posts: 1522

Hey Tilda

Thanks for the response and links. I haven't been getting email notifications of posts, so didn't even realize you posted a reply til now.

that link re: Christmas is so true. Thanks for sharing Very Happy

That is to enter the season of Christmas with the intention of being a personal messenger of light and love, and celebrate in the name of service to Divine Consciousness

Nothing transforms the ordinary into the extraordinary more directly than the intention to do what ever you are doing with the desire to serve Higher Power.

When we celebrate the season with such an intention and desire, we not only experience Christmas . . . we actually become Christmas: an agent of rebirth of the soul and the bringer of light.

Therefore, the best gift you can give to yourself and the world during this holiday season is a cup of spiced cider, a delicious Christmas cookie, a round of jingle bells, and the gift of self love. So be it.

loved it!

loux