Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

jasmine123 · Joined: 24 Dec 2007 Posts: 3

I keep second guessing myself.

My previous post talked about how my P-ex is now secretly dating my friend. I recently let her know I knew. She, of course, denied it believing there's no possible way that I could know. That's okay, though...it helped to get it off my chest. I didn't want to bump into her and be greeted with fake smiles and hugs.

I keep flip-flopping: one moment I'm utterly repulsed, the next I'm jealous about their 'relationship'. While in the latter state, I keep thinking: maybe I'm wrong about his nature. He has ALL the traits of a non-criminal psychopath (as suggested in my vast reading/research)...but is it possible that something about me just clashed with his personality and brought out his worst? The jealous part believes that she's going to get the best of him, he'll give her the respect, love, truth, and peacefulness that he could never seem to grant me.

But then another voice says, "this is crazy, he's unable to love anyone. She's just fresh prey. He's play the role for a while and eventually he'll reveal himself her too. You're lucky to be out!"

And then I flip back to that other space. This goes on all day. I feel the same craziness I felt while IN the relationship, so I'm not really "out".

Can someone have all these traits and not be psychopath or narcissist? Could I have simply just brought out a bad side of him?

Jasmine

littlecat2 · Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2007 9:10 pm Post subject:

Absolutely .... this is one of the many ways the N's leave us bleeding. I did the "flip flop" routine for quite awhile after I originally left him ... one day it was "how could he be such a jerk?" and the next day it was "maybe I'm wrong" and even the next day it would be "what can I do to fix this?" You're very normal in the way you are reacting to the brutal emotional abuse of an N. Take care ....
abby
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Cookie2 · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1395

This is soooo typical of how we think after a p has messed with our lives.........Your NOT wrong about anything hon........N/P's always leave us normal people thinking it was all our fault.....then some of them even pass that story on to our friends and relatives ruining our good name....this is called the smear campaign....look it up here....Sam talks about it.....
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