Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Nekta · Joined: 07 Dec 2007 Posts: 2

I grew up in Melbourne Australia with 7 brothers and sisters, all of whom have turned out relatively normal, except our elder brother.

He is 36, one year older than myself, and has since young showed signs of uncontrollable anger. This was not so much a problem when we were kids. But it has now got to a point where I worry about the safety of all our family members.

He has physically abused 2 of our sisters, and 2 of our brothers, threatened both our parents, threatened to kill. The abuse is unreasonable, not that there is a valid reason for beating anyone. But his reasoning is absurd. EG. He has kicked our younger brother (who suffers from MS and can barely walk) while on the ground, as hard as he can, because he missed a spot when he forced him to vacuum. He punched my sister several times in the head for turning the AC when he though it wasn’t required, and the list goes on and on.

When he’s not in a crazy state, he’s extremely polite. Un-naturally polite, and I’m not sure which is worse as he can turn with no notice. He hasn’t hit me in over 10 years, and I’ve been talking to him, but in a resent incident he threatened to kill our youngest brother and his fiancé, and this has been the last straw for me. They are now in hiding at our sister’s house, and are considering leaving the state in fear of their lives.

I believe that every warped thought that goes through his head, he believes to be fact, and will use physical force when anyone disagrees, as he sees fit. He tried to control everyone. He covers up a lot of his actions with many lies, which he’s become an expert in doing. People have sometimes commented on what a lovely person he is. Our family knows otherwise.

I do believe he has the potential to kill someone, and am not sure what we can do but stay away from him. He lives only doors away from my parents, and is constantly there causing havoc. He torments his new wife and her two kids. She constantly has bandages on her face, and I think she's scared to leave him.

I have been recently thinking of trying to have him committed/locked up. I don't know if this is possible since I can't prove that he's committed a crime. I think if no one makes a stand, he will eventually kill or seriously hurt someone, most probably one of our family members. Reasoning with him is out of the question. His reasoning is illogical. Any advice would be great.

Thanks for listening guys.

Nektarios

movedon · Site Admin Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 814

HI,
with apologies for my late posting here.
It is really scary to be in this position as you can see it, but outsiders can't.
No-one on here can diagnose, we are not qualified, it also takes loads of tests and time, and is done voluntary, very few would agree to being examined, as they consider themselves to be special and above all that.
Please be careful in any actions you take, because although he has been OK to you, if you turn on him, and he is a P then, you will have consequences you wouldn't want to deal with.
Please seek some outside help, and make sure it is confidential.
Maybe if you share your fears, with a therapist, who deals in this field.
I know the feeling of going from, calm and nice to a sudden eruption into a madman, please I urge you to be careful, and try not to provoke him seek professional help.
Please read all you can, on the boards, there is also ask Dr Sam a board where you can pose questions.
I am so sorry your going through this ordeal, and hope you all stay safe.
Please let us know how you go on.
Once again sorry for the late posting.
Hugs
Movedon
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