Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

IWillRecover · Joined: 13 Sep 2007 Posts: 14 Location: Florida

This emal was sent to me from him early on...

Hi Sweetie,
I had a marvelous time yesterday, you are very special to me and I look forward to having
a new life with you. Hope mom likes the lasagna.
Paul

Is every supply looked at like a new life? Or a new start of some sort? Do they ever learn and not repeat mistakes so the new supply does not abandon them for the same reason you did?

samvaknin · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 2229

Every love affair is a new beginning of a new life. What is the connection to narcissism? Both narcissists and non-narcissists feel this way.

Does the Narcissist Have a Multiple Personality (Dissociative Identity
Disorder)?

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4950

You did not abandon him - he abandoned you. That's what he is telling himself, at any rate.

The dissolution of the abuser's marriage or other meaningful (romantic, business, or other) relationships constitutes a major life crisis and a scathing narcissistic injury. To soothe and salve the pain of disillusionment, he administers to his aching soul a mixture of lies, distortions, half-truths and outlandish interpretations of events around him.

All abusers present with rigid and infantile (primitive) defense mechanisms: splitting, projection, Projective Identification, denial, intellectualization, and narcissism. But some abusers go further and decompensate by resorting to self-delusion. Unable to face the dismal failures that they are, they partially withdraws from reality.

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):

http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse14.html