Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

berengere · Joined: 28 Aug 2007 Posts: 2

I need your support, seriously
i was a victim of narcissistic abuse by a childhood friend , she is jealous of certain people , mean, lies a lot , uses people, she is fake,she contradict herself all the time, blame others , acts like a victim, feel entitled ..... everything a N can be !! . i called her six years ago to tell her i didn't want to hear from her, of course she acted dumb like she didn't know what i was talking about , tried to end the conversation telling me (in tears, of course!) that she didn't feel like talking because she has personnel problems. Well i thought it would be over once i hanged up, well far from it.... i have a hard time letting go of some of the things she said , i hear her like it was yesterday, i think about it constantly, i have insomnia , ended up going to the doctor for sleeping pills, her persersion and shamelessness are ruining my life. Nobody knows what i go through, it's in my head and won't get out !!
i feel very revengeful and wish for peace of mind more than anything else
please help

OxDrover · Joined: 13 May 2007 Posts: 1465 Location: Arkansas USA

Dear Berengere,

I am sorry that no one has answered your post before now, and I am also sorry that you are feeling such pain over this relationship.

Do you still see this person? Communicate with her?

This is a wonderful forum, but you might try posting on "My stories" on the Psychopath part and get more answers.

Healing can be a long slow process, but there are many people here who have also suffered abuse from Ns and Ps. My sugggestion first would be to tell your story in more detail in "Our Stories" thread, and in the meantime, to READ and LEARN moreabout these people with personality disorders.

The learning about them, and how they think, and how their emotions are different from"normal" will help you work through your pain and anger. God bless and feel free to post at any time. (((hugs)))
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Matilda · Joined: 27 Feb 2007 Posts: 1841

Berengere, you've posted in the wrong section darl, come to the main forum for either narcissist or psychopath, I will move your question to there. This is why no one answered you here, it is a forum more for research or issues to do with healing and recovery as stated in the heading, and yes, welcome!

Your question has been reposted here:
http://thepsychopath.freeforums.org/viewtopic.php?t=5895

Oxy:I appreciate your very active participation as a new member in our group, but can you back off a bit and let the administrators do their task? (ie: "apologising" for no one answering this post for anyone else other than yourself here, isn't really required - you are only representing yourself, not a group, right? ) We -admin- are volunteers and most of us have jobs in "real world" and so don't have 24 hours per day to devote in the forums. But -it would be nice if you could trust us enough to know -we do get around to everyone and everything that requires doing. We've all been doing this for a long long time. Okay? Thanks. Smile

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Matilda
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OxDrover · Joined: 13 May 2007 Posts: 1465 Location: Arkansas USA

Dear Matilda, I am sorry if I have over stepped or offended you or in any way tried to "do your job"--I just happened across her post and I was not intending in any way to "apologize" for the group--I stated "I am sorry that no one has answered your post."

My only "motive" was that I didn't want her to think that no one had noticed her. I realize that you administrators (plural) all have other lives and other duties besides the forum and I am in no way criticising the job that you all do. I think I have thanked you all profusely on many many occasions.

If in the furture I happen across an "orphan" post (one that is one or two days old and no answer from anyone) would you rather I contacted you to answer it? I will be glad to do whatever it is that you would prefer I do.

Sorry if I irritated you in any way or tried to assume your authority. Mel cuppa
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Matilda · Joined: 27 Feb 2007 Posts: 1841

No worries Oxy.... Smile

it's all good. We all want to "save the world"...lol. (I remember when I first started posting I would do "blitz" posting...) I guess I just didn't want you thinking that we (managers- though they can speak for 'emselves too), were neglectful. (Like the term "orphans"- berengere are you still with us luv? - you got some replies in the main forum.)

But if you (Oxy) do notice anything amiss, or you think there's something that us admin might need to address, please contact us off forum. We might not get back straight away, but we do 'get round to it'.

Oxy, are you okay now? safe I mean? just remember - ALWAYS- to keep yourself safe online too alright? Because, (and I can't stress this enough),
any one of us can get retargeted online. So - although it's good you feel comfy and cosy here, always remember there are those who are on the prowl in here. (you know that quote, can't remember it exactly, but the thing about "satan coming with a smile on his face"...).

It's all good Oxy. Don't worry.
Wink

Matilda

PS. you made me laugh with what you said about 'my authority'...lol..kept thinking of the south park thing..."respect mah authority"...lol. No worries Oxy. Laughing

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OxDrover · Joined: 13 May 2007 Posts: 1465 Location: Arkansas USA

Hi, Matilda,

No, believe it or not, I am not out to "save the world"--gave that part up when I was about 18--it is just that occasionally if I a reading on the other lists than the ones I usually post on there is one post there that no one has "noticed" for a few days.

I usually try to post to anyone that has been "orphaned" on a list and not noticed, just to let them know that there is someone here. I can imagine how I would feel if I posted for the first time and no one responded for days. I know there are so many many threads that it is difficult for you guys to find the "orphan" posters so all I was trying to do was just say "welcome" and that I WAS SORRY that no one had seen their post. Not apologizing for you or anyone else, just experessing my feelings.

I am still READING through various threads on the forum, find lots of good stuff there, and don't know if I will ever get through reading it all. Soaking it in like a sponge.

Yea, I am doing much better, since I found the Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever that had been sucking me down physically and am getting treated for it now. Stayed home today instead of going out running errands to just REST and read mostly. Get my mammogram Friday and my colonospocy next month so should be done for a while, clean bill of health so far except for the RMSF-- and while it is BAD it is curable with fairly common and cheap antibiotic. Odd though, no rash, but the blood test was VERY positive. I'm still having fevers and sweats but have only been on antibiotics 2 1/2 days so far soit may take a while to make me feel better since it has been a smoldering infection. (no rash)

I am feeling very safe the way things are right this minute, but due to DIL meeting some local thugs in jail she may be the worst worry we have by the time she gets out (probably not too long) and I have NO doubt that she is VENGEFUL or that she is a P right up there with P-son and P-K, so will take advantage of her being in jail to get a few things removed from the farm and stored off site that she might tell some of her newfound friends that would be a great "haul" in a theft---I didn't worry about P-K or P-son burning my house or stealing things because they WANTED those things, but she will be looking for REVENGE when she gets out (Just because you are paranoid doesn't man you don't have someone out to get you!) LOL

Only 2 1/2 months until my husband's estate settles out and I will know how much $$$ I have so will at that time decide where to go and waht kind of place to buy (depending on $$$ of course) but won't be a bread crumb trail to it from anywhere---even my e mail address and ISP # hooks to the farm address---and always will! Cell phone also, and Drivers license etc. so will keep that as my "legal" address and my "new home" will only be my "vacation home"---I talked to a private investigator and he advised me about how to "hide" IN PLAIN SIGHT. Rather than trying to hide a new address, just "travel" and keep the old address....SIMPLE.

With internet and direct deposit to banks, and all that, I can do all my business by phone and internet. Will just have ONE trusty friend forward my mail to me from my PO box and I am absolutely "hidden" from anyone looking for me. I am soooo glad that this is all about to be over, and that things are CALM around here now! PEACE----AHHHHHHH! Very Happy

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