Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

mthankful · Joined: 01 Apr 2007 Posts: 84

I stayed home from work today. I just had the past 11 days off for vacation time and was to be back to work this morning. I spent my holiday with my little one we had such a great time. I had to return him for his weekly visitation with the np. I havent stopped crying since. Please tell me it will get better. I miss that little one so much.

I have always believed that the np would eventually abandon S. Now I am starting to think he won't. It is his excuse not to work (he has money), he enjoys the attention from my son (when it suits him) and the attention he receives from others while he parades the child from one coffee shop to another all day long. He also has his mother (whom I believe is also np) who cares for the little one when she wants to parade the little one around. So the n gets "breaks" which I think has helped him hang in there.

Please someone tell me the np will give up - give me some hope.

Summer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 873

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mthankful · Joined: 01 Apr 2007 Posts: 84

Thanks Summer

It is so incredibly hard. I worry about my son all the time. N is too smart to leave any physical evidence on him but he abuses him emotionally. Puts a heck of a show on for others - even joined mom's & tots (make me sick - I imagine him oogling up the women there & I am sure they are thinking what a good devoted father - when really he is eyeing up the next victim - the one who will feel sorry for this single daddy).

I feel sick that people in town see my son riding his bike around alone, and do not say anything or report the N. I know the child is left unsupervised and unfed. He fends for himself -he's only 3.

I wish I had a crystal ball & could see what the future holds. It is so depressing in what feels like "waiting" so I can have my life back.

You are right Summer, its me that has to hang in there and be the boys constant. Even at his young age he truly does see some things that baffle him. He asked me if I liked his daddy - I said no. He then asked why - when I didnt answer he asked "Does he call you bad names too?"

Summer good luck with your situation. Sometimes I wonder what is worse - when the child is young or when the children are older where the NP is involved.

Summer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 873

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mthankful · Joined: 01 Apr 2007 Posts: 84

Thanks Summer. Sometimes we all need abit of encouragement. It ticks me off though when I have these off days and feel like "giving up". To me it means he has all the control which he definitely is not entitled to...grrr. Okay I'm back up! I wouldnt give the sorry loser the satisfaction.
Take Care
m