Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

thayilflies · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 486

I apologize for the gross statement on travel. What I was trying to say is that travelling at the moment is not the right option. Much can be learned about culture, oneself and life through the experience of travel. One day I would very much like to explore the world, in fact, two of my favourite hobbies are walking and driving (for the scenery). Two of my greatest desires are to sail and fly for the same reason. I love scenery and exploring. As a child I took much delight in walking around the coastline; my fondest childhood memories involved building "bases" (we used to call them) in various locations in the neighbourhood with my friend. The point I failed to make was that to travel without aim would be a mistake, not that travel is aimless. Have you seen the BBC TV show "Grumpy Old Men"? It is a favourite of mine due to it's good humored cynicism. I adore those guys because I can be a terrible cynic myself (sometimes to the point where I am unconciously offensive if I get drunk enough). I am well aware of this character flaw. On this occasion my description of "sleeping in backpackers and eating shit" was my failed attempt at some good humored cynicism, nothing more.

seekingserenity · Joined: 14 Mar 2007 Posts: 179

Cricket -- your experiences sound wonderful. It helps to have seen some things, taken some risks, before staying put. I did my share of moving around the country, trying new jobs, a bit of traveling, when I was in my 20s and early 30s. Now I am 44, and I've been living in the same place for about 10 years. I feel challenged now more than ever. I am traveling and staying in the same place. By this I mean I am moving spiritually. The challenges of having a family, of trying to have a career, of going NC, of saying NO -- I'd rather not hang out with those folks -- even if it means I don't have a lot of friends right now -- I'm not kissing people's behinds any more just to be liked, and at the same time, I'm a lot more calm and not doing some of the acting out that I used to do. Whose rambling now? Smile

Cricket · Joined: 27 Feb 2007 Posts: 113

To be fair, a good friend of mine was travelling through Senegal when she aquired an unfriendly intestinal parasite, leading doctors to believe that she may have accidentally ingested some poo. So it is possible.

I must take some time to look inward one of these days and really ponder why my posts so often disentigrate into talk of doody.

thayilflies · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 486

OxDrover · Joined: 13 May 2007 Posts: 1465 Location: Arkansas USA

I traveled from 17 to 24--Africa, South America and the US--broadened my views of the world, tried out different things--some good, some bad, but learned from it all.

Didn't go back to University til age 30+ for my degree, with a kid on each hip..but paid for it myself and appreciated it more.

Now I am a widow at 60--disentangeling myself fromm things I don't need or want--simplifying my life from things and obligations. Going back to Africa this fall/winter, on a spiritual journey as well as travel--renew my soul. Find out what I want to "be" when I "grow up"--if I ever decide to grow up. Specialization is for insects. Peace.
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thayilflies · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 486

One of the aspects I am enjoying about my life right now is the lack of complication. I have next to no posessions and so little to do I take far more pleasure in simple daily activities and chores. Simplicity is freedom.