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no therapist available - how do i continue to recover?

Sam Vaknin is the author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" and 8 other books about personality disorders and abuse in relationships with narcissists and psychopaths. He is the owner and moderator of support forums and the first person to have written about the Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) online (in 1997). He invented many of the terms currently used to describe the disorder and its effects on family, the workplace, and in various professions.

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no therapist available - how do i continue to recover?

Postby san » Wed Jan 27, 2016 11:42 pm

today is 1st anniversary of no contact w/ my daughter and her dad (my ex, divorced from him over 20 yrs., but stayed 'friends' until last year), both of whom have psychologically and emotionally abused me for over 30 years. this anniversary brought it all back, thoughts, feelings, anxiety. he and i were also seeing a therapist for several years who abused boundaries w/ me by becoming my best friend and employer, as well as therapist, so i'm also recovering from that/those relationships with her). i am using physical massage as a means to release toxic emotions, but have no psych. therapist with which to speak about how to keep moving forward. i am a retired therapist myself, am using all the therapy i know on myself, but this anniversary knocked me for a loop. i do stretching, emdr on myself, meditation, stopped smoking, recovering alcoholic for 16 yrs., have worked through many issues and gotten off meds for bi-polar diagnosis (no depression for over a year), many other physical issues, utilize vit. therapy now, am eating better. i don't know what else to do. any suggestions? i thought this support group for recovery would be helpful as well, but it's very confusing as to how to get into a forum/discussion. would appreciate any suggestions and direction.
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Re: no therapist available - how do i continue to recover?

Postby samvaknin » Sat Jan 30, 2016 3:53 pm

These may be of help - click on the links:

The Narcissist's Victims


Victim Reactions to Abuse by Narcissists and Psychopaths


Mourning the Narcissist


The Three Forms of Closure


Back to La-la Land


The Spouse/Mate/Partner of the Narcissist


Divorcing the Narcissist and the Narcissistic Psychopath - How Do I Get Rid
of Him?


Traumas as Social Interactions


How Victims are Affected by Abuse


How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)


How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Recovery and Healing


Rescue Fantasies - Surviving the Narcissist


The Malignant Optimism of the Abused


The Inverted Narcissist - Codependence and Relationships with Abusive


Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder


The Dependent Patient - A Case Study


Danse Macabre - Trauma bonding and the Stockholm Syndrome


The Cult of the Narcissist


Narcissists and Personality disordered Mates, Spouses, and Partners

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/nar ... sages/5013

Projection and Projective Identification - Abuser in Denial

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/nar ... sages/5002

Approach-Avoidance Repetition Complex and Fear of Intimacy

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/nar ... sages/5000

Guilt? What guilt?

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/nar ... sages/4931

Narcissists, psychopaths, ***, and marital fidelity

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/nar ... sages/4920

The Narcissist or Psychopath Hates your Independence and Personal Autonomy

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/nar ... sages/4959

I miss him so much - I want him back!

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/nar ... sages/4934
Encyclopedia of Narcissism and Psychopathy:


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