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Sam Vaknin is the author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" and 8 other books about personality disorders and abuse in relationships with narcissists and psychopaths. He is the owner and moderator of support forums and the first person to have written about the Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) online (in 1997). He invented many of the terms currently used to describe the disorder and its effects on family, the workplace, and in various professions.

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sexual rejection

Postby mushroom1972 » Fri Dec 04, 2015 5:47 am

My narc never intitiated *** with me unless he was drunk. He would be sitting in bed with me, obviously aroused, but i would always have to initiate. Was this a power play, or was he truly just shy? At times he wouldn't have *** with me because he wanted to 'take a step back' and protect me from getting more attached, even though we were still dating. He came to nyc to visit, rejected me sexually hte morning after a date, because he didn't want to hurt me but having me get more attached, i kept asking him about it, and he said, 'i don't want to get my heart broken', which i believe was his attmept to let me down easily without hurting me. so in some ways- he's not a narc. but then he got into bed with me and asked 'hypothetically, do you mind if i'm sleeping with other women'? It wasn't hypothetical because he'd already told me that he'd been sleepoing with someone else for 4 weeks. Was he doing this to hurt me, or was he just trying to keep me from being mislead and simply clueless about it?
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Re: sexual rejection

Postby samvaknin » Sat Jan 02, 2016 3:09 pm

Narcissists, psychopaths, ***, and marital fidelity

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/nar ... sages/4920

VIDEOS The Narcissist's Sexuality

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Approach-Avoidance Repetition Complex and Fear of Intimacy

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/nar ... sages/5000

The Narcissist or Psychopath Hates your Independence and Personal Autonomy

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