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Sam Vaknin is the author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" and 8 other books about personality disorders and abuse in relationships with narcissists and psychopaths. He is the owner and moderator of support forums and the first person to have written about the Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) online (in 1997). He invented many of the terms currently used to describe the disorder and its effects on family, the workplace, and in various professions.

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fear of the unknown

Postby momoftwo » Wed Jan 21, 2015 5:23 pm

To make a long story short, I have two children, ages two and eight months, both girls. After dating their father for five years I finally asked him to leave. I was seven months pregnant with my youngest. Through counseling offered for the abused, I have come to learn and accept my ex is narcissistic. It hasn't been easy. He reacted by filing for primary custody of our children (even before the baby was even born). This shocked the heck out of me as my children are my world. My attorney as well as many others tell me I have nothing to worry about and I believe that too but the whole situation makes me nervous. No mediation has been successful and the trial was supposed to have taken place in October of 2014 but it keeps getting pushed back by the court. I guess I'm just asking for advice and help because I don't believe my lawyer is familiar with NPD and he has never had a diagnosis made that I'm aware of.

A few pieces of info about this situation is he is 50, I am 30. When I met him he was going through a divorce that his wife filed for. Five years later and still no divorce...Both of his children from that marriage have no relationship with him at all. His son refuses contact with him outright. The daughter faded away slowly and altogether once my first daughter was born.

He is also a police officer and familiar with the court setting. His attorneys do a wonderful job of carrying out his agenda.

I just don't feel prepared and any resources to help me have more confidence and be less fearful would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for all your videos and sharing of this helpful knowledge pertaining to abuse and NPD!
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Re: fear of the unknown

Postby samvaknin » Wed Jan 28, 2015 3:09 pm

You may find these of help - please click on the links (they apply to all types of relationships with narcissistic or psychopathic abusers of both genders):







How Victims are Pathologized and re-abused by the System

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/na ... ssage/5068

Narcissistic and psychopathic parents and their children - click on the links:

https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/nar ... sages/4727

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http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com (Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited)
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