Dear Dr. Vaknin,
I am scared of my ex and suspect he might be a narcissist.. if not a sociopath
here is a brief overview of the behaviors he has shown/said/done in the past:
-Always surrounded by a 'harem' of inappropriate girls, especially online
-Anger control issues, has yelled at me repeatedly
-Runs away from any argument, even when I have tried to calmly talk it out
-Faked a future with me, then denied he ever said any of it (gaslighting?)
-Blamed me for things he was in fact doing/saying
-Tried to actively make me feel insecure, he told me I was unjustly victimizing myself and letting my emotions cloud my judgements..
-Has started multiple fights with co-workers, his boss, his fellow students, and teachers at university
-Major mommy issues - he dislikes her with an unusual passion
-Has moved around the globe everytime his fake personality falls through in a country
-Acts superior, laughs at people behind their backs
-Needs to be in control
-Self medicates with marijuana and alcohol
-Used to give me the silent treatment for a certain amount of time until I took the blame
-Told me during our second break up that he is a sociopath and a manic depressive (but refuses therapy)??
-Very snide and rude deamenour towards 'inferior' people
-Never apologizes, only says "Sorry you feel that way"
-Tries to press the reset button on all his relationship, swooping back in without apologies after a considerable amount of time where he suspects the victim has forgotten his transgressions.
Please tell me what I should do if I were to run into him again, we're practically neighbors and have a similar social circle. I'm currently No Contact, but am scared of seeing him..