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Sam Vaknin is the author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" and 8 other books about personality disorders and abuse in relationships with narcissists and psychopaths. He is the owner and moderator of support forums and the first person to have written about the Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) online (in 1997). He invented many of the terms currently used to describe the disorder and its effects on family, the workplace, and in various professions.

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Postby rebelwacause-anarc » Tue Dec 31, 2013 6:59 pm

Hi.i am sothankful i found u,ur videos and ur honesty. Sam,ive wanted to give up from the effects of my ex narc. The sole reasoni havent is my baby. My narc has gotten me addicted to adrug that whrn i try to get off i eant to pay him back.i want to end his happiness. I wnt him tohurt like i have. Ive recently watched my best friend die in.the most mind fuc?!ing, Brutal way. And my narc still ignores me. My question is or my questions are,why does he ignore me somuch,can he be held accountable for destroying me mentally or even from physical abuse from months ago,and where do i even start. Im so filledwith rage.
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Re: lost,completelylost

Postby samvaknin » Fri Jan 03, 2014 4:16 pm

I do not provide advice on how to hurt and damage people, not even narcissists.

These may be of help - click on the links:

The Narcissist's Victims


Victim Reactions to Abuse by Narcissists and Psychopaths


Mourning the Narcissist


The Three Forms of Closure


Back to La-la Land


The Spouse/Mate/Partner of the Narcissist


Divorcing the Narcissist and the Narcissistic Psychopath - How Do I Get Rid
of Him?


Traumas as Social Interactions


How Victims are Affected by Abuse


How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)


How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Recovery and Healing


Rescue Fantasies - Surviving the Narcissist


The Malignant Optimism of the Abused


The Inverted Narcissist - Codependence and Relationships with Abusive


Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder


The Dependent Patient - A Case Study


Danse Macabre - Trauma bonding and the Stockholm Syndrome


The Cult of the Narcissist


Narcissists and Personality disordered Mates, Spouses, and Partners

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/na ... ssage/5013

Projection and Projective Identification - Abuser in Denial

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/na ... ssage/5002

Approach-Avoidance Repetition Complex and Fear of Intimacy

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/na ... ssage/5000

Guilt? What guilt?

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/na ... ssage/4931

Narcissists, psychopaths, ***, and marital fidelity

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/na ... ssage/4920

The Narcissist or Psychopath Hates your Independence and Personal Autonomy

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/na ... ssage/4959

I miss him so much - I want him back!

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/na ... ssage/4934

Take care.

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