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Raspberries
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 Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 10:22 pm Post subject: How do I respond to this email? |
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I won't post it here but the ex is saying I lied in my police statement for my restraining order, that i'm being vindictive and deliberately denying him access to our son. He even said liars dont go to heaven!  . he says I have prepped our son heavily and that is why I have ceased the parenting plan.
He is totally reversing everything on me. Should I reply? or ignore him?. I feel sick.
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pinkybubbles
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| Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 10:27 pm Post subject: |
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| He wants you to bite- don’t- ignore it and just have contact based purely on what’s needed- maintenance and times for him to see your son- keep the email and show it to your legal adviser.
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Cookie1
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| Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 10:43 pm Post subject: |
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| Typical Ras! Turn it all around....Definantly keep the email and show your attorney...during my divorce the xp tried to say I sent him harrassing emails and phone messages....1st off I had NO idea he even had email...and NOT ONCE did I call him.....my lawyer told him to send her the emails and the tape of the phone messages.....and YOU GUESSED IT.......He taped over the phone messages(ya right) and deleted the emails(ah huh) See NEVER DID THEY EXIST....except in his mind...and hell...if it existed in HIS mind then it WAS REAL right? Got him no where! Except seen as a liar!
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lemondroppr
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| Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 10:56 pm Post subject: |
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Do NOT answer the email! Save them for the attorney.
Lemon
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artichokeheart
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| Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 11:36 pm Post subject: |
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Agreed. Don't respond. Keep a copy and don't delete the email. They all do this, trust me. 
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betterdaysn2007
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| Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 1:00 am Post subject: |
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~NO CONTACT~ You'll be glad that you didn't respond. Good advice on saving and NC!! 
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Izobell
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| Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 1:03 am Post subject: |
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No contact
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Raspberries
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| Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 1:06 am Post subject: |
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OK I did respond  , but referred him to the sections in the restraining order in which he was in breach of in the email. I also stated that I would be in contact after seeking more legal advice about future contact with our son, as I had already advised him in previous emails. And made it clear that I was happy for him to continue to see our son on a weekly basis through supervised access and that as previously stated he can ring our son 2 times a week. I left it at that.
I can't go with no contact as it will go against me bigtime in court..
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Cookie1
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| Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 1:55 am Post subject: |
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| Ras...If the contact is thru a 3rd party(which is what I advise) it shouldnt go against you in court...It's just when you totally prevent contact for him and your son that the court will frown....I still hope you have kept the email and will show it to your lawyer,,,he may just keep it in a file if he thinks it should be brought into things later.....
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Nolongerhisvictim
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| Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 2:12 am Post subject: Reply |
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Raspberries,
Since he told you liars don't go to heaven, in my flesh, I want to suggest you tell him that you will see him in hell! LOL!
My contructive side tells me to tell you to ignore him. Print the email and keep it to show harassment. Don't take the bait. Just let it go and chalk it up to him being a P. If you give him a reaction, he will get what he wants...don't give him any power. He's already taken enough from you as it is.
I just thought you would enjoy the opening humor in the midst of his mire of crap!
Keep smiling...it will be your best revenge!
NLHV
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Raspberries
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| Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 2:14 am Post subject: |
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| Cookie1 wrote: | | Ras...If the contact is thru a 3rd party(which is what I advise) it shouldnt go against you in court...It's just when you totally prevent contact for him and your son that the court will frown....I still hope you have kept the email and will show it to your lawyer,,,he may just keep it in a file if he thinks it should be brought into things later..... |
Thanks cookie, I have no 3rd party to do it unfortunately. And my sister is not interested. He didn't see our son for 4 months (his own fault) because I initiated a mediation and left him to respond to that, which he didn't for ages...now its all being blamed on me. There were no supervised contact services or anything, so I couldnt send our son to see him through one. One has just recently opened up so i'm now using it.. Dont we have a right to be free of violence though?.
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Raspberries
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| Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 2:18 am Post subject: Re: Reply |
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| Nolongerhisvictim wrote: | Raspberries,
Since he told you liars don't go to heaven, in my flesh, I want to suggest you tell him that you will see him in hell! LOL!
My contructive side tells me to tell you to ignore him. Print the email and keep it to show harassment. Don't take the bait. Just let it go and chalk it up to him being a P. If you give him a reaction, he will get what he wants...don't give him any power. He's already taken enough from you as it is.
I just thought you would enjoy the opening humor in the midst of his mire of crap!
Keep smiling...it will be your best revenge!
NLHV |
LOL thanks for the laugh!. I know he was baiting me, but it is SO hard sometimes. I didnt respond to any of his comments just said what I said above...basically being a broken record LOL.
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Cookie1
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| Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 2:32 am Post subject: |
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| You BET we do Ras....We are human beings and ALL humans deserve the RIGHT to live w/o violence.....DAMN straight! You will NEVER get any p to see it this way unfortunatly...However I would NEVER tell him I'd see him in hell because I dont believe ANY of us survivors will be going there!And also I believe p's are ALREADY in a hell of their own making...no matter what theyre doin...who theyre with,hell even if they won the lottery....these evil people are still in a hell of their own making!
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lemondroppr
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| Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 6:37 am Post subject: |
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I can share my experience with email with the P. The more I answered and rationalized to him why I was/was not doing whatever he was harrassing me about, the worse it got. I finally stopped giving him ammunition to throw back at me by starting NC through email (I had already done the phone NC long ago). Although I continued to collect it, I just gave it to my lawyer. He (almost) quit sending any (until a couple of weeks ago when he asked if we could reconcile, lol). It was interesting. He went from raging, to threatening me, to telling me how ill he was, to wanting to reconcile when I quit responding. Divorce hearing is Tuesday. Was anyone wondering what was coming up, lol? He really is soooo transparent to me now.
Good luck Rasp. Aren't they something? 
Lemon
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Raspberries
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| Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 7:03 am Post subject: |
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GREAT now Mr @#$% has asked for my lawyer's name and phone number so his lawyer can contact her   . More threats. I feel I have lost the power again, I HATE this!. He was meant to ring our son at 5pm tonight but didn't and I doubt he will again before this goes to court in 6 weeks or when ever.
Arrrgggghhhhhhhhhhh.
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