Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

blue · Joined: 18 Mar 2007 Posts: 17

I have been reading this forum for a few months now. I am really confused as to what has happened to me as this has been the worst relationship experience in my life. I am 33 and male. As I have read everyones posts I see MANY simularities to the person that I had to leave.

I have read about N's and P's and lies and manipulation. I have heard the rediculous CRAP!!! that came out of this persons mouth. She fits the profile - but theres always a "reason" for what she does!!! I know in myself the answer but its so hard to believe that there are people out there like this. I resist, but, its true. She is this.

The things that I found out were: (her reasons)

She's

Alcoholic
Self harmer
Was deaf till 4 yrs of age
Diagnosed ADHD
Now been diagnosed Bi-polar

and soooooo may lies!!!!! sooo much manipiulation!!!!!! blatant in your face undeniable manipulation!!!! Lies that you can prove are wrong instantly!!! And then her expectation and bewilderment because I didn't believe them!!! Cheating....yep. all the signs. Never "caught" her in bed though. And worst of all - she can't seem to see that anything is wrong with her behavior!!!! She's wondering why I left!!!

I have a lot to say but have said it before. I guess it will come out in bits and pieces. Nothing was ever violent - like some of the ppl here and I'm truelly sorry that ppl have to deal with that. I have had threats tho. It doesn't compare to the stuff that some of you have had to deal with.

I just dont understand. I just dont understand.

fraggle_1972 · Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 570

Welcome Blue

I am new here too..

They dont actually have reasons...they have excuses for the things they do and it is always because we do something wrong, not the right way, expect too much, blah, blah, blah.

they are like a hurricane that tears through causing havoc and catastrophic damage, and leave you dumbfound in the aftermath.

Welcome again.

Fraggle

blue · Joined: 18 Mar 2007 Posts: 17

I just keep searching for a reason. All I can come up with is that she is a "shit" person. yeah "evil" comes to mind but all I can think is that she doesn't know what she does. AND I have to protect myself from this person. THAT is my lesson to learn here.

You know. Once. after God knows - one of her indescretions (she was online on 3!!! dating sites advertising herself as single and wanting the "best f**king time!!") she said to me..."I know how this can work...spoil me!!!"

I've actually started seeing a therapist now.

fraggle_1972 · Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 570

Blue

My exN/P was on numerous dating sites whilst married (I was one of the other women, meet him through a neighbour, who I later found out he meet on a internet site), I traced him back to years and years before me - on internet sights, describing himself as single (really married, 2 kids), in a more affuent suburb and an engineer (he was a storeman)

My ex planned and calculated it all...he shows no remorse..

Protect yourself in everyway that you can.

Most of us seem to be in some sort of Therapy...it helps, we are all trying to understand WHY.

But there is not WHY, it is because THEY CAN. My therapist describes them as Freaks.

blue · Joined: 18 Mar 2007 Posts: 17

I met mine on the internet too. Had a really nice description on her profile. I am scared of online datin sites now. I am even wary of posting online. I consider myself lucky because certain circumstances caused me to really open my eyes - before something really bad could've happened. I do not really believe in the internet now aside from a place to get information.

I am glad I didn't marry this person - although she was pushing for it.

She said to me once after I found 3 txt's on her fone from 3 potential lovers(they were saying baby this...baby that...wanna see u again...xoxox) That I should marry her???? wot??? get real!!!

fraggle_1972 · Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 570

I am sure that there are some really nice people on internet dating sites, but its not for me...I have browsed, but never logged on or joined...just not comfortable.

From what I have now learned it is certainly a playing field for these types. Very Predatory.

This is actually the first forum I have participated in, or really looked at. Usually use the internet for research, info and keeping in touch with friends.

they like to rush things too, get their hooks in before you realise whats happened.

blue · Joined: 18 Mar 2007 Posts: 17

Fragle,

tell me wot happened to you.

fraggle_1972 · Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 570

blue

You can find my "Im Here" post on page 2, post title "Member from the N board" dated 7 March.

this will give you the core of what has happened.

I will be on the forum for about another hour, so any questions just ask away.

blue · Joined: 18 Mar 2007 Posts: 17

Fragle,

tell me wot happened to you.