Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

I'm sitting here with my son watching Criminal Minds. And they deal with Psychopaths on the show a lot. I'm beyond thrilled that this show exists and that they- go there. They explore the sickness of the psychopathic mind. They touch on the morbid sadism in serial killers and killers alone and teams. It's not so much personal on the level of husbands and wives and mother's and father's but it's there. You see bits of it here and there. But they cover the very thing that we know about that others want to ignore because it's too horrible to think about. Evil.

One of the actors when speaking of Psychopaths said a line that caught my attention and made me think. I mean, I already knew it, but it was a special kind of line that one of those that make you think.

"They become "The Thing"".

That one little sentence says it all about psychopaths. One little line!

Ok, stay with me on this! I've not gone nuts!

I remember when I met XNP online. I was just talking to him all the time. Hours at a time. My life stopped. I took over the computer and my kids didn't get any time. The whole time he was questioning me about what I wanted, what my hopes and dreams are, what I liked and didn't like. And he loved the same things that I did! I said I wanted a family. I wanted to find a real man and good step dad for my kids and get married and have a good family. Well, surprisingly he wanted that exact same thing and he even told me that he always wanted kids, but one of his girlfriends got pregnant and had an abortion and he wanted that baby very much. I felt so bad for him. He sounded so perfect to me. We wanted the same things. I was convinced I had found my soulmate. Well he told me we were!

He became "the thing"---- that I wanted in my life. He became what I wanted. They are not real people on their own so they become the thing (hey I often called the XNP 'the thing' lol) that we want to get into our lives and then wreak the most havic in our lives as they can. The thing. That thing that we want the most. They figure it out and what is so creepy is that they are such good actors that they figure it out. They act to be the thing that we want.

I just thought it was profound to me and thought I would share. Some new way to think about it, eh?

Yeah, I know what you mean. All that what you think is interest in you as a person turns out to be information collected to hook you into a relationship & also used to bring you down like a lion does an antelope. Pretty convenient for the P, isn't it? They're such good predators. (shudder)

Everyone becomes the "thing". Everyone puts on the mask. Those little white lies and fake smiles are necessary for social survival.

Amen to that one ! Everyone does not prey upon others to harm them & to take advantage, etc.

I like watching Criminal Minds too, though sometimes I think the show likes showing prolonged suffering of female victims a bit too much.

One of the repetitive message of Criminal Minds is the killer made a choice in his action. It doesn't matter that he (sometimes she) had a sucky childhood, he still made a choice to abuse and kill. I can only think of one unsub that was portrayed as a sympathetic character who had a psychotic break and went on a killing spree on the gang members who had killed his girlfriend.

So true.