Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Well mediation is done for now. Can anyone give me any ideas on what they might be looking for as signs that may work against the N? After 17 years of being with him some things he says are things I pass over, Meaning I heard him but didn't react because it was "old hat" and it all went by in such a flury that now I have time to reflect and am trying to see from another perspective what the mediator might have been thinking. two weeks before the mediators report comes in, its unnerving waiting to see if he showed enough to expose his control and abuse. I believe he did but I am cautiously optimistic "protective learned behaviour" anything asociated with my exN is and always has been a gut wrenching scenario of my hoping and getting crushed. Hoping finally all that I have tried to do over the years will be validated now and that he pulled that knot a little too tight to get out of it

Unfortunately, to the best of my knowledge, mediators don't judge things like that and don't report in that fashion.

For the most part, all they do is report whether or not mediation was successful and possibly the terms that you all agreed to, if agreement happened.