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Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
by Karyl McBride


Synopsis

The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.

An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.

Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the control you want.

Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:

(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life
(2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage
(3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter.

Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.

My copy of this has arrived, so will let others know how it is once I have read it

Snuffy x

In 2001 my dentist referred me to a topnotch Ph.D.Psych specialized in jawclenching/grinding teeth. I thought he was going to teach me some sort of trick to get rid of it.
Found out soon enough that he wanted to work with me on a psychological level to find out what the issues were that made me do it in the first place.
(After thorough intake I belonged to his top 10 out of 7000 in the databank).
He relentlessly and patiently worked with me for 5 years as he would call it "your cleaning up the attic and me watching and guiding over you soulder".
That is how discovered about my FOO issues, especially the Nmother.

I ordered "WILL I EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH? a couple of weeks ago and read it in two days flat.

Everything written has been my exact jorney and hard work in the 5 years therapy and more. I will use it for many years to come as my manual, because I will always be a work in progress as the daughter of an Nmother, but it can only become better and better.

Returned to therapy by the way when I was D&D'ed 1/1/08 and the major pre-work I did on the Nmother/FOO issues proves invaluable while dealing with this disaster, but the groundwork has been done already.
No way it ever crossed my mind that my first H (4 years) and the second H (30 years) were N's and why I was their perfect target.

Reading this book it makes clear again why we are the chosen ones and working with it, it will make you proud of the wonderful, special, warm, loving person that we are and that we deserve so much more and better.

I hope understanding and identifying what has been so earnestly written by Karyl McBride will do for you what is does (together with therapy I admit) for me.

Warm embrace to all you courageous women and I wish you healing from this devastating experience

DG

I recently read this book and it was a lot of things for me - confirmation, salvation in a way, the beginning of a healing process that will take longer than I imagined. It is a very good read, and it's not full of over-your-head psycho-babble. It's real people with real situations, from all different age ranges and living different types of lives. The author touches on acute to severe aspects of narcissistic abuse, and ways to begin healing.

Being in denial and not understanding my life basically, it was a complete affirmation that I was truly not crazy, and that maybe I do have value and something to offer locked inside me somewhere.

This book helped me a lot. In particular, I like the recommendation to develop an "internal mother" (unconditionally loving inner voice) to replace the unloving external mother.

Thanks for the tip. I've ordered the book...an early Christmas present to self.

I am in a process of reading it. It is still too close to home, therefore painful, but really eye opening for me.