Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

did anyone read this book?

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YES, that book is the first real "AHA" moment in the world of the N.
I bought it, and gave a copy to my neighbor, and then bought another copy for myself.
I have read, and re-read it again and again, because each time, and thru my own process, its speaks so much to me.
It is a saving grace, here, and has been so helpful to push me, to find out the exacts on the wrarped relationship I shared with NM so long ago.
Literally, it is amazing book.
I hope all read it, as it is a good. Another is "Toxic Parents"
I read that one so many years ago, and again was like
Yes, thats me.
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I really liked the book. It was geared towards the people you meet in everyday life. Just wish I would have read it sooner and took it to heart.

I have not read it yet - I appreciate being steered to books that others have found helpful, and I have put it on my list. Thanks.

It is a great and accessible book. Highly recommended.

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I borrowed this book from the library last week. It really hit home. It is an easy read and very relevant for me. I now wonder how many psychopaths/sociopaths are in my life that I have not recognized.

Well, I feel like a knuckle head. I just asked on the N post why this book was not mentioned in the books to read section. This book has been a life saver for me. I could not understand a living form being without consciense. This book explained how there are creatures out there that can not concieve of empathy, remorse, love, or any other emotion. This book is a gift to those of us who can feel. [/quote]

I also read Without Conscience by Robert Hare.
These are "A ha!" reads; then, out of habit, I lapsed back into thinking that sociopathy was a matter of 'degree'. It's so hard not to "believe that everyone is trying their best, given the hand they're dealt." But refer to the Stout book often, if you can.
Couple of comments--biggest surprise was: you are vulnerable when you are feeling sorry for someone--you don't expect the sociopath to be this endearing little misfit. Of course, it is our nature to have compassion; but this book has a serious "look before you leap" lesson.
I guess when we are dealing with an abusive N, the hardest & most useful lesson I had to learn was about "The Hook": you want to rescue, to be the savior,etc. And deep down, you feel that the N must love you; after all haven't you shown every selfless act of love to 'rescue them' to a better life? A therapist explained: THAT is the hook. They do NOT love us. Can you imagine treating a total stranger with the superficiality & cold demeanor we have excused daily for years? Certainly not.
Thanks so much for this group. You are the most validating thing to come along for me.
A little aside--I knew an alcoholic N who died--his 3 ex-wives and 3 out of 4 of his children did not attend his funeral. But, such is the charm of the N: people who knew him more remotely actually held TWO services for him! I had to chuckle at another post-er on here who remarked,in effect, "Dang, am I at the right funeral?"
Thanks so much for starting this site. Peace and warmth to you all. <3

I read The Sociopath Next Door while I was still dating the N. That's when I started connecting the dots.

FANTASTIC book. It also helped me realize that something was up with a couple of other people in my life. It's a very scary and educational read.

I read this book and found it very helpful. Although I felt there could have been more information than the book provided (and it provided a lot) it turned out, for me, to be an important help in further detaching.

Another book that I found comforting was "Why does he do that? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" written by Lundy Bancroft.
I feel these two books help form a link that is easier to understand together and I used that aspect to formulate stronger rationales about me being okay and needed to get rid of "him" in my head. In other words, these books helped me to further detach.