Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Nomosettl · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 11

I think my sister is a narcissist to some degree. Does it do any good at all to show them a list of the N traits? She kind of knows there is something amiss with herself and we have both discussed the possibility of bipolar disorder but I'm thinking narcissist. Among other things, she has the convenient "forgetfulness" of some of the cruel things she has said and done to me over the years that have hurt me deeply. She refuses to apologize for anything. She told me years ago that she would not say she was sorry for anything because she knew she might do it again. ????? Oaktree posted a list of traits recently, most of which fit my sister to a T. I printed it out and I want soooo badly to give it to my sister but I'm thinking she just deny, deny, deny that any of it applies to her.

Matilda · Joined: 27 Feb 2007 Posts: 1834

Hi nomo...
so sorry to hear this...but I am thinking that if you go to the topic with threads related to N family and relatives you might find more information.

Matilda
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samvaknin · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 2015

It takes a major life crisis to force the narcissist to face up to his False Self: a painful breakdown of a close (symbiotic) relationship, a failure (in business, in a career, in the pursuit of a goal), the death of a parent, imprisonment, or a disease.

Under normal circumstances, the narcissist denies that he is one (denial defence mechanism) and reacts with rage to any hint at being so diagnosed. The narcissist employs a host of intricate and interwoven defence mechanisms: intellectualisation, projection, projective identification, splitting, repression and denial (to name but a few) – to sweep his narcissism under the psychological rug.

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Question:

How do narcissists react to criticism?

Answer:

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Narcissists invariably react with narcissistic rage to narcissistic injury.

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