Happy 4th everyone!
My son and I have spent the day dodging Nmom, for the most part.
I just learned that she had driven by our house a couple of times earlier today, saw our vehicle in the driveway, started making plans for us to spend time with her, and then a little later while we were driving somewhere she called and I made the mistake of answering.
She was trying to get information out of me and I refused to answer her. I kept everything short.
HER: Are you home?
ME: No.
HER: No? (In a disgusted tone of voice because she expects me to tell her exactly where I am, what I'm doing, etc., but I wouldn't do it.)
ME: No.
HER: I jut went by your house and your vehicle was there.
ME: And?
HER: I need SON to come help me with chore A, B and C.
ME: He's not available.
HER: Not available? What does that mean? Where is he? What's he doing? You know I'm a little tired of you people never having time for me after all I do for you.
ME: I've got to go.
HER: Are you on something?
I hung up on her.
So, because I refuse to share every detail of our lives and I refuse to drop everything to fall into her trap to get us into her house for the day, she has decided I am "on something."
My son and I were able to spend some quiet time together at a nice restaurant and we started making some plans as far as financial goals and deadlines to get ourselves out from under her control.
How's that for "independence day"?