Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Hello, just to let those know, I've got a meeting today with a psycologist, It feels like it's going to be the way forward. I've been feeling good, but the presence is still there, about how could someone use you and not be aware of it. I find when I'm tired I loose control of my emotions easier too. So I'll be back to tell you how it went.

Have a nice day

joefromfar

Great news Joe, I really hope it goes well for you and it proves helpful.

Hang in there Joe, and you have a good day too!

Well what can I say..................

It's like day and night. I have detached so much from those thoughts that were hounding me. Therapy, really helps to understand things, not only about how we react to things, but also about who we are.

I've been feeling very good, and my mind is un-hindered by controlling thoughts. I am enjoying being me, my confidence is slowly building.

Joefromfar

Ah that's great news Joe. I am thinking about trying some therapy myself, never really been down that route but would be interested to hear your expereinces as you go along. Did you get referred through your GP or do it privately, because in UK its a different game to in USA. Friend of mine asked her GP for counselling and he referred her to a community psychiatric nurse, which freaked her out. She said the CPN did some cognitive behaviour stuff with her but she didn't find it helpful in dealing with her marital/abuse issues. Anyway, so good to hear you feeling so positive.

Hi Aisha,

No I decided that I wanted to do it on my own, I'm seeing a psychologist, She's put me on one session a week, the mental shift, is unremarkably subtle, I wouldn't really know how to explain, unless I taped our sessions, but she is helping me look at me, one thing she did say which I did inevitably realise is "Don't fall in love with the image".

When I thought about it on the spot, I did say to her that the BPD from january did have the physical qualities I was looking for, hence falling in love with the image. Tall, blonde, great figure. There was also some very useful uplifting talk that is building my courage. She told me too that when I wasn't in her session, not to let it get to me, and keep it for the session, and in fact since Friday, I've been enjoying my time, with people and alone. Isn't that amazing, how one phrase can change a mind process. It's a price to pay for regaining ones self. I feel a lot better, and so much happier, I had a no stress 4 days, and when I say no stress I mean no stressful thoughts or guilt trip, or panic feelings. Nothing.
I feel much further away from this problem than ever. I feel it's behind me, and I'm now working on me.
joefromfar

That's really good stuf Joe, keep it up! That's the beauty of this forum, when you see (or I should say read) someone moving beyond the 'all about the N/P' stage and focussing on themselves and their recovery. I'm amazed at how good I feel these days, but obviously still got work to do on me.

:D Anyway, wishing you all the best for your recovery Joe.

It's been 6 days of calm thoughts, no anxiety, no guilt, no paranoia.
I feel like I'm feeling me again, the person I was before, and better, because I'm learning about myself at the same time.
I feel very good, I'm not on top of the world and full of energy, but I feel very in tune with who I am, It truly is amazing. This is the best thing I could have done. I'm miles away from all of that it's in the past now, and I'm now learning about me.

Hope others find the enlightenment to seek professional help, it doesn't mean you're a looser, it means you want to take charge of your mind and know who you are again.

Good luck, be nice to yourself
joefromfar

Good for you joe, you sound good

Glad that you are getting some help for yourself

Snuffy x

Hello fellow site users, I feel wonderful, I'm so grateful, it's a miracle in the making, I never thought I'd get myself back, I thought I was doomed.

Have faith in wanting to refind oneself, do what is necessary to get oneself back. NC has been a great part of my remedy. The psychologist has and is helping put up the barriers for future reference.

I'm now meeting new people, my world is fun, happy, exciting.

There is just one last thing I have to sort out, I ran up some debt in the last month while I was all over the place, looking for who I was. I should be able to clear that up within the next couple of weeks,

YOU CAN, IF YOU THINK YOU CAN

Take care, look after yourselves
Joefromfar

I'd like to quote from Dr Norman Vincent Peale "You can, if you think you can"
Chapter 1
The Persistence principle:
It's always too soon to quit

"When you have a problem, one that is especially difficult and baffling, perhaps terribly discouraging, there is one basic principle to apply and keep applying.
It is simply this - never quit.
To give up is to invite complete defeat. And not only in connection with the matter at hand. Giving up contributes to an ultimate defeat of the personality. It tends to develop a defeat psychology.
Come at the problem a different way if the methodology you are using is not working. And if the new approach fails to go well, then come at it still another way until you do find the key to the situation. For there is a key, there always is, and continual, thoughtful, undeviating search and attack will produce it."

Good luck all, be nice to yourselves. Only you can change you.

thats great news.

You will start to see different paths soon, and realise what way to go!!


I must admit, I did cry in alot of my sessions, I would also come home and comfort eat when we had talked about Nmom. I can't believe how much of an impact they have on us!

Well, the highs and lows are less extreme, im kinda more like skipping across the water like a stone, now rather than having heavy emotional thoughts that used to bring me down.

I cry now and then, But most of the time I'm looking out for myself. Keeping house, ironing my clothes, eating correctly, looking after myself, shaved, boots shined.

The jobs going great, I'm moving ahead very slowly, but moving.

I'm learning a lot about myself too, there is plenty in that shed to sort out, lol. I'm working out why I'm attracted to these kinda women. It cannot be put into one phrase, and I'm still working on it. I'll keep you posted on what it could be, or is.

Nice to be able to vent, I'm actually feeling quite good, even though I still have some sadness situations going on, my emotions are touch and go at the moment. But that's okay, as long as I know im moving ahead.
I find breathing techniques help to keep on top of my emotions, good solid sleep, food, fresh air, friends, something funny.

I was a complete rebel on Friday night, need to curb that, it's an undercurrent of what has happend to me. I really need to sort that out, so that it doesnt happen again. No need to throw it all away now.

Anyway, nice to be here, hang in there y'all.