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pinkybubbles
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 Posted: Sat Feb 24, 2007 12:29 am Post subject: what works for you? |
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I have joined the gym recently- not very fit and desperately need to loose weight but I feel I am finding myself- have muscles where I didnt think they existed- ive lost about 18lbs so far in 5-6 weeks but gone down 2 dress sizes on my bottom half where ive toned up- how good does that feel.
I need to get my hair cut- just trying to decide what I want whether just a trim as I have not had it cut since May 06!!! or if I want a drastically different style- I have very straight fine hair and considering idea of having a loose wavy perm- hairs just below shoulders and not sure it will go too short for this- also need to colour it for a new look i dont like to do things by halfs
I like to buy new bedding when Im depressed- always nice to get into a bed with crisp cool sheets when you are feeling down- especially when the sheets hold no memories.
I like to decorate- just painting nothing special just a bright new wall with no memory or mess
i just like to blow old cobwebs away and reinvent myself..... what do you do?
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thayilflies
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| I do a number of things to help me. The most important is regular exercise because this lessens the symptoms of depression. Once I can control the depression, I then have the ability to focus on the task at hand: improving myself and my life. If I'm not exercising daily then I lose my clarity of mind and become overwhelmed by hopelessness.
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pinkybubbles
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| Posted: Sat Feb 24, 2007 10:35 am Post subject: |
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| Just coloured my hair a dark red by myself- too scared to take the towel off my head and dry my hair in case its a disaster- might need a trip to the supermarket to buy another colour to undo this one me thinks---
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WindSong
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| Posted: Sun Feb 25, 2007 3:30 am Post subject: |
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Music, reading, music, doing the online support groups, music, writing, music, decorating and craft making, music, playing games with my boys, music, crawling under the covers with the monster kitty, music, being with my brothers, music, being with my grandmother when she is having a good day, music, sitting outside in the cool air, and oh yeah, in case I forgot to say.... MUSIC!!!!! 
hehehe good topic Pinky!
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WindSong
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I used to really enjoy walking too but I kinda got out of it when I broke my foot. Mom and dad got me an IPOD for Christmas to use while I walk and haven't' used that as of yet, because I am basically afraid to walk. My foot really hurts sometimes from where that stupid idiot doctor I saw wouldn't do anything about it. 
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WindSong
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Pinky, how did your hair turn out?
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pinkybubbles
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| Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 3:27 pm Post subject: |
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| WindSong wrote: | | Pinky, how did your hair turn out? |
Noone has noticed the colour- cant afford it to be cut yet but I am thinking to leave it and have a wavy perm- its just below my shoulders now and im worried it will look shorter if i have a bit of a wave put in- so gonna wait til summer and see how i feel i think now. will be slim by then too- just lost anther 3 and half pounds this week!!!!
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ocean
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| Posted: Mon Mar 12, 2007 3:57 pm Post subject: stress relievers |
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OUtdoors for me,
I sit at the ocean and it always always help me, ride my bike or run, but i also have discovered doing difficult math questions really takes my mind off of everything, its so focusing, meditation my mind wanders, always attending some course and ballet was so beautifying for me, helped me immeasurably,,,
Painting i love, but clean up after i dont, life has so much to offer, and so little time in which to do all i want to try,,
stay strong, and enjoy this wonderful life
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pinkybubbles
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| Posted: Mon Mar 12, 2007 7:00 pm Post subject: |
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have now lost another 8lb--woohoo
i have lost 4 inches on my stomach- 4 on my bust- 2 on each thigh- 2 on each arm and 3 inches on my hips.
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Nolongerhisvictim
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I kind of agree with Tammy...mine goes like this...music, scrapbooking, writing, reading, music, scrapbooking, writing, scrapbooking, writing, music, reading, scrapbooking, music, scrapbooking, scrapbooking, scrapbooking, music!
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trjpm
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| Posted: Wed Mar 14, 2007 9:40 pm Post subject: How do I get past this overwhelming feeling |
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| I am trying so hard to find the positive, I just so tired of feeling this way. How do you move on?
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newlight
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 I have just come to terms with the fact that he really is a narcissist and saying that over and over reminds me that I havent lost anything. I have found the greatest sadness to be the greatest relief and it is this.....He didnt leave me or our family because for him it was never there, we only served a purpose for a time. Now he has a new victim and dare I say I hope she suffers twice as much as I did, if that is possible, and at the same time thank God she took him.
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peace2u
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| Quote: | | I have found the greatest sadness to be the greatest relief and it is this.....He didnt leave me or our family because for him it was never there, we only served a purpose for a time. Now he has a new victim and dare I say I hope she suffers twice as much as I did, if that is possible, and at the same time thank God she took him. |
Yep. This makes sense to me. I keep saying over and over how could he just walk out on us -- his family -- me -- our son -- my son? I get so torn up about it. But I am looking at this from a mentally healthy perspective. He is sick. He is an N. We served a purpose, and when he was through, he went on his way.
On to the next victim. He flaunts her in my face -- and we are still married. It's so very disrespectful, but his agenda is to hurt me. I don't know if I feel sorry for the OW or if I'm angry with her. I am sure she has been told some very ugly lies about me. He lied to me about his last wife. In fact, he lied to everyone about his last wife. Said that she had an affair on him. She hadn't. He purposely smeared her name so that he could appear to be the victim. So that he would not viewed as the problem. I'm sure he's doing and has done the same thing to me.
But back to the OW. I can only say that she is morally deficient. How can she rationalize picking up my child with my husband? I just could never, ever do that. She does appear young. Maybe she doesn't have enough experience to understand. I don't know.
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Stand4Change
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Most likely she does not understand b/c he is lying and manipulating her.
He probably got her hooked with a pity story.
The other possibilty is she is just as sick as he is.
So don't spend any more time thinking on this, it is stressful
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Stand4Change
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to pinkybubbles
i wouldn't recommend perming your hair since you have dyed it. that will probably fry it. just keep it conditioned well.
Besides, straight hair is still in fashion. Enjoy your hair it's beautiful just the way it is 
cute name, it makes me feel giggly
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