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Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men. Lundy Bancroft

I found this book very interesting and it gave me some insight. My sister recommended it to a friend of hers who was in abusive relationship and said she noticed a big change in her attitude so I read it and can understand why. The author works with perpetrators of domestic abuse/violence. I found it fantastic for understanding their behaviour and the patterns. Whether they are narcissists or not, but from speaking with domestic violence counsellor NPD is very common with abusers. I am starting to understand that modus operandi may be different but abusive men are all the same. Power and control.

Here is the link to the book.

http://books.google.com/books?id=xEZIpu ... lt#PPP1,M1

I have this one opened right now by the computer while I'm reading one by Sandra Hotchkiss. I like Lundy's book bc it pretty much convinced me there's no changing these guys for the most part really, with his honest and real experience related in working with the men addressed as to common myths and "excuses" vs. realities. Well written and a very nicely formatted book so that you can skip around, in addition to reading it from start to finish, as a reference to return to often and as needed

Jobie.

This book completely changed my life. When people would dismiss my concerns about my husband, I would give up. When they would believe me and express concern, I would worry that I misrepresented him.

When I read this book, I knew I was not crazy, it was not me, that it was Ok to think this was a bad enough situation that I should get out of it.

Great book!! When I found the author quoting, word for word, the very words of my own abuser, I had to set the book down, I was so stunned. Word for word. I'm not crazy, and I'm not alone. There is an explanation for my XN's behavior. Thank you, Lundy Bancroft.