Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

When going "no contact" after the painful experience with an n or p disordered person, it can often mean that friendships and family relationships change. Sometimes it's necessary if your ex is trying to contact you via friends or relatives ("contact by proxy") to cut them off, or sometimes close ones simply have no understanding of the pain you have been through. ("Why can't you just get over it and let it go" being a well intentioned, but oft used phrase of "support".)

And there are those friends who expect your support without really understanding that you can't "be there for them" because you have your own issues to deal with. Perhaps before the experience with the ex you were always "there for them" but now the roles have changed.

Matilda.

here are some links on friendships.
http://www.meetyourgreens.com/neediness ... ation.html

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/growin ... iendships/

http://personaldevelopment.suite101.com ... riendships

http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2005/387.html

http://www.cbc.ca/stevenandchris/2008/1 ... dship.html