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MistandVapor · by **MistandVapor** on Fri May 22, 2009 1:27 am

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Echo · by **Echo** on Fri May 22, 2009 11:06 am

Hi MistandVapor, Welcome to the site.

Its great that you are taking your instincts seriously. If you have these feelings(red flags) then you are right to try and understand them. Listen to your gut - its trying to tell you something is wrong with this man.

If this man is coming across the net with "red flags" - then I would explore that - and stall meeting him.

I'm going to move your post to the main site where you can receive more replies(your post is in an area for info only).

knoxy · by **knoxy** on Fri May 22, 2009 5:19 pm

Mist,

If you are already having these concerns and haven't even met this man - run regardless of his diagnosis.

Seriously.

Easier said than done, of course. But you are given a gift in that gut of yours - it's called intuition. Follow it.

Now that you are here, how can we help you? What are the signs with this guy?

anitya · by **anitya** on Fri May 22, 2009 9:19 pm

Hello to you. We're all confused and sad in differing degrees on this board. Everybody here understands.

I would say loud and clear to you, "Always follow your gut feeling." I wish I had. You're with people who can help you here. :)

livewithintegrity · by **livewithintegrity** on Fri May 22, 2009 10:05 pm

I will reiterate what others have said here, which is to trust your gut. If someone is leaking signs of narcissism online, where he is "free" to be whatever he wants to be, that's something to pay attention to.

I will caution you, as others here can attest, that the Internet is a haven for N's. It's a perfect place for them to wear the disguises they try to don in "real" life. It's a perfect venue to indulge their fantasy existences. The N I knew donned hundreds, maybe thousands, of personalities online and I can only imagine how many trusting women he delighted in deceiving. This is not to say that the person you're in contact with online is an N. But it's some serious food for thought. If you want to share more of your story, there are many here who can lend a receptive ear and some first-hand wisdom.

MistandVapor · by **MistandVapor** on Sat May 23, 2009 1:36 am

Echo wrote:Hi MistandVapor, Welcome to the site.

Its great that you are taking your instincts seriously. If you have these feelings(red flags) then you are right to try and understand them. Listen to your gut - its trying to tell you something is wrong with this man.

If this man is coming across the net with "red flags" - then I would explore that - and stall meeting him.

I'm going to move your post to the main site where you can receive more replies(your post is in an area for info only).

Not sure if I am replying correctly...I honestly have no clue as to how to operate on a message board. I'm hoping that you can tell me where to find my post? You said that you were moving it...where do I look?? Thank you all for your replies to me as well. It made me feel welcome.

MercyMe · by **MercyMe** on Sat May 23, 2009 5:05 am

MistandVapor wrote:
Echo wrote:Hi MistandVapor, Welcome to the site.

Its great that you are taking your instincts seriously. If you have these feelings(red flags) then you are right to try and understand them. Listen to your gut - its trying to tell you something is wrong with this man.

If this man is coming across the net with "red flags" - then I would explore that - and stall meeting him.

I'm going to move your post to the main site where you can receive more replies(your post is in an area for info only).

Not sure if I am replying correctly...I honestly have no clue as to how to operate on a message board. I'm hoping that you can tell me where to find my post? You said that you were moving it...where do I look?? Thank you all for your replies to me as well. It made me feel welcome.

Hi Misty. :)

This forum is the main Narcissistic Personality Disorder site Echo was referring to.

There are several forums associated with this board; if you go to the main page you'll see all of them.

Welcome, and good luck. :)

Aisha · by **Aisha** on Sat May 23, 2009 6:48 am

Hi MistandVapor, my advice...run for your life! block him from your contacts and walk away, dont get sucked in more than you already have. You havent really said much about your situation but I bet everything you say will sound very familiar to lots of us! Aisha

by **andrea.jones2008** on Sat May 23, 2009 7:10 pm

I would like to talk to you off of this message board. Your situation (only based on what you have mentioned) sounds identical to mine. I realized from this message board that my husband has issues with emotionally abuse not really narcassist or a psychopath. I need positive support in my situation and it seems like you do also. I agree with the admins on this site to leave a narcassist and maybe they can't change based on the stories. However, I did not realize this site is only for support in leaving a P or N. How am I gonna leave my husband when I don't even know if he is a P or N and he doesn't either. "WE" want to get help to figure out our situation. I wanted support in finding out how to work on things first. Getting out is not out of the question, but I want to cover all of my bases. Regardless, you and I would be a good support for each other.

louxloux · by **louxloux** on Sat May 23, 2009 7:22 pm

andrea.jones2008 wrote:I would like to talk to you off of this message board. Your situation (only based on what you have mentioned) sounds identical to mine. I realized from this message board that my husband has issues with emotionally abuse not really narcassist or a psychopath. I need positive support in my situation and it seems like you do also. I agree with the admins on this site to leave a narcassist and maybe they can't change based on the stories. However, I did not realize this site is only for support in leaving a P or N. How am I gonna leave my husband when I don't even know if he is a P or N and he doesn't either. "WE" want to get help to figure out our situation. I wanted support in finding out how to work on things first. Getting out is not out of the question, but I want to cover all of my bases. Regardless, you and I would be a good support for each other.

Andrea,

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Hi All...

Ok I am going to get the ball rolling in this new area of the Board and give some handy tips about staying safe on Forums such as this.

From my experience they can be places to come to for healing and support and they can also be places where if we arn't careful we can get retargeted by Disordered people and end up right back at square one!!

It is an unfortunate fact that given this topic our Forum can attract individuals who suffer from these Disorders. They can be very decieving and we can come to like and trust them quickly. Please be very very careful how fast you become friends with anyone on the Net. What better place to come and find new victims than to a place where many of the members are vulnerable and often newly out of an abusive relationship??

We try our best to keep this Forum safe but there are things everyone can do to protect themselves from predators.

* Please avoid having your email address in your profile.

* Give as little personal identifying information out about yourselves as possible, inclusive of location.

* Spend a considerable amount of time getting to know members on the Board before getting to know them off the Board. Talking months rather than weeks here. Email Management if you would like to exchange email addies and we can arrange this if both parties are agreeable.

* If you commence a friendship with someone off the Board please be careful how fast you provide that person with personal information about yourselves.

* Watch for consistancies in members stories. If you have concerns please contact admin and report them.

Above all please remember that your personal journey to recovery is your reason for coming here. An online internet support community can be a wonderful place if you keep yourselves safe. They can quickly turn into a complete nightmare if you don't..

Take Care and stay safe...

Lukky

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