Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

wlw35 · Joined: 09 Mar 2007 Posts: 374

Thought I would start a new topic, my NM had an alter personality when we were growing-up, she called her Sheila Watkins, she was a young girl who went to daycare, had speech issues, etc.. I know it sounds bizarre, but she made it funny, like an imaginary friend. I had forgotten about this, until I found a letter from "Sheila" --- maybe I'll scan it in, NM wrote it to me at camp when I was young. All these crazy things added up, I never really saw it that way until now, it was just the way she was, just my mom, but I do think she's disturbed, but happy in her world. My mom was different and that made her cool, when we were young, like a child, later, she was different, of course. Anyone have a similar experience?

seekingserenity · Joined: 14 Mar 2007 Posts: 179

WLW,

I think there might be a personality disorder called Multiple Personality Disorder. (I"m not exactly sure of the name.) Do you think your mom may have had this?

wlw35 · Joined: 09 Mar 2007 Posts: 374

Well, she didn't actually become that person, she talked about her and her mother, however, they didn't exist, almost like an alter ego, I'm sure it served a purpose of working through her childhood issues. She still talks about her, more as a joke, strange. I'm not sure what it is...

thayilflies · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 499

No, mine is just your base model - without the bells and whistles.

oaktree · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 362 Location: Minnesota

did Sheila do anything, like play with you? or was she just a communicator? did anyone ever ask your NM directly about Sheila and if so how did she react? did your mom have speech issues? what do you think this Sheila represented?

fascinating.
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wlw35 · Joined: 09 Mar 2007 Posts: 374

My mom was the communicater, she told us stories about her and her mother. Well, she didn't have speech issues, that I know of. I think my NM struggled with putting us in daycare, so maybe she created this person to represent what would have happened to us, her girls. Never really thought about this, much until now, maybe there's more to this story. Let me think about it some more.

eyeswideopen · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 212

Wow, that is interesting. Mine didn't have anything like this.. She had her public personality and her home personality, but that's a completely different thing.
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wlw35 · Joined: 09 Mar 2007 Posts: 374

Still looking for the pictures, sister is going to send some, too. I have one with her and her girls with foil queen hats as kids dressed for Halloween. I'll try to post. One more thing, I know this sounds crazy again, going through stuff and forgot to mention, my NM draws cartoon pictures of family situtations, some funny, some mean, she drew them and would send a copy to me. I guess it's recorded history, don't know what this means, guess she was working through something? I'll find some good ones to post.

oaktree · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 362 Location: Minnesota

looking forward to this. she might be an odd duck N, but at least she is creative!! Cool

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wlw35 · Joined: 09 Mar 2007 Posts: 374

Oh, I know! She's very captivating when things are good in her world, my sister and I were just discussing how creative and successful she could have been, if she weren't so N and married to a super-psycho, controlling N!! I mean, she never would have been NORMAL, but different, energy channeled in the right direction. She's in a new town, much smaller and I think they are getting her number, so she has to go back to her old town where they "know" her, she's "special"-- she has to get her supply. I spoke with her after a visit and she actually sounded HIGH, that's when I knew. I feel sorry for her that she doesn't have true emotions, that she can't be supportive, give unconditional love, experience life like we do!