Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

x3 · Joined: 27 Sep 2007 Posts: 2

Hi everyone,
i came online to look for a support group and i found you guys. I am x3 because i am at the tail end of the third P in my life. But i need your help with something urgently.

i found about this last one through communication with another one of his women who approached me socially and asked me directly if i was with him. so is she. we surprise confronted him at her house. which i will get into later.

my most pressing question is this: the only violence he has ever displayed that we are aware of is in a sexual setting. we have since heard that he physically abused one of his other girlfriends.

what are the repercussions of confronting a psychopath as we did? he was placed in a postion of being laid wide open. we unmasked him and he was left no where to hide. we basically stripped him of his power. after 2 and a half hours he asked to leave because he said we were making him uncomfortable.

while i have had the experience of these men before, they were never confronted and stripped of their power like this. we both now have feelings of being physically unsafe. are these justified? we both feel that we have been under surveillance by him at different points before this.

Can anyone tell me what we can expect? what are the repercussions of confronting a psychopath as we did? the confrontation happened two days ago. i cannot find any inofrmation on this.

Lukky · Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 2407

Hi x3

Welcome to the Forum and I hope you find some useful reading resources here and you may also like to try one of our other Forums for links to help you...

http://groups.msn.com/PSYCHOPATH

Firstly No,, it is never a good idea to confront a Psychopath but you wern't to know this and whats done is done ok.....

The best thing you can do now is to put some stops in place to protect your safety ......Have you read about 'No Contact' (NC).. Please enforce this right away..

http://groups.msn.com/PSYCHOPATH/nocontact.msnw

Also make sure you are safe at all times by keeping your doors locked and letting friends /family know where you are.. Read as much as you can as fast so you can to learn how to protect yourself from any form of retalliation... This can come in many forms.. He may try to reel you back in by being nice and doing the sorry sorry act only to hurt you again.. He may also become nasty and do a smear campaign on you...Then again he may do nothing and just move on to find a new supply source..Its often unpredicable so just be careful ok...

I am sorry I am not trying to frighten you but it is absolutely imperative when dealing with people like this that we put our personal safety first....The way to do this is by learning about them and about ourselves and why we attract them...

You say youve been involved with three of them.. I see its time to make sure theres not a forth ok...Thanks for coming here and I truly hope you stay safe...

Hugs and take care

Lukky

ps.. My apologies for the rushed post btw,, hopefully it is of some help... I am in a bit of a rush sorry and only just spotted this here before I needed to leave...
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Echo · Posted: Thu Sep 27, 2007 2:25 pm Post subject:

Hi X3,

I can tell you what happened to me, we didnt confront him with being a P because neither of us knew that he was diagnosed at the time.

Long story short: I found out about OW(he was panicking) I went to her house to see her, got on quite well with her too. He arrived at the house, and told me he wanted what he had with me - but he wanted it with her.

I left, he followed me professing undying love. I went home, next day after sitting up all night I went back to her house. He had given her a black eye.

She threw him out, he turned up at my house, I sent him away.....he broke into her house and badly hurt her. I got an RO on him, and he was caught trying to break into mine.

He was arrested for hurting her, and we testified against him and he went to prison.

Never that good an idea to confront them with it. I sold my house and vanished, but he stalked me for years. She stayed within the area and married someone else..and we lost touch eventually.

Welcome to the forum, I agree with Lukky's advice. Find out all you can about the subject, and NC him. A fourth one would not be a great idea, so some healing for you would be a really good place to start.

Basically, OW and I stripped him of his power too - but he came back at us for a while "bigger and better than ever" until the police got him.

Be safe.....and take it from one who did it - if you are going to shove a stick up a tiger's backside...make sure you can run pretty fast Laughing

Welcome again. Echo.

x3 · Joined: 27 Sep 2007 Posts: 2

Hi and thank you sharing the information and your stories. he has made no attempt to contact me but i believe i was followed home last night. he has contacted her. she has not spoken with him. he is already threatening her and we both feel overwhelmed with fear for our personal safety. we are putting whatever we can in place and know that we must trust our instincts now more than ever before.