Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Melody · Joined: 21 Feb 2007 Posts: 10

I am kind of confused about their capacity to love. In many of the articles I've read, it's said that they only love themselves. Yet, several years ago, my N and I lost a baby and he was so grief-stricken that I couldn't even concentrate on my own feelings. For two days, he holed himself up in our den, drinking, and channel surfing until he passed out. He kept saying that he had to "internalize" this while I kept urging him to talk about it with me and to let me share it with him because I was feeling the same way. He was deeply depressed I felt. I don't know how that could have been an act. Two days later though, he emerged, announced that he was over it and was not there for me at all emotionally for the next few months.

If they only feel love for themselves, how do you explain his grief over the loss of our child? I'd really like to know this because it's one of the things that hangs me up in my accepting that he is an N.

Thank you!

samvaknin · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 2186

Narcissists grieve and mourn the passing of sources of narcissistic supply.

Only a qualified mental health diagnostician can determine whether someone suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and this, following lengthy tests and personal interviews.

These may be of help - click on the links:

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/1.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/npdglance.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq82.html

Do Narcissists have Emotions?

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq33.html

Depression and the Narcissist

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq17.html

The Depressive Narcissist

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal83.html

Narcissists as Parents

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4727

Take care.

Sam