Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

My father is an officially diagnosed N. He claims he has a conscious and that he has done many wrong things in his life. Yet, when it comes to me...I do everything wrong in regards to his relationship. He is controlling, emotionally abusive and very caught up in sexual pleasure.

I have been NC for almost 4 years now but I cant seem to drop the thought that I could maybe help him if I just set boundaries in the relationship coming back into a relationship. He has moved on. I am no longer "his daughter." He doesn't mention my name and anyone who does gets an ear full of his rage. My brother, his perfect angel, is either an extreme N or an average P. I am not sure. But he and my dad are buddies and whatever my brother says, goes--pretty much.

Its amazing I came out so functional. I want to help my dad. I want to find a way to let him be in my life in a HEALTHY way.

What did it take for you to get help? How did you get better? Is there something I can say or do with my father to help him to get some therapeutic help? He denies he has NPD. It is a subject never to be brought up in his presence. He has been diagnosed for 22 years but chooses to act as though that counseling session never took place. The only reason I know is because of my mother. She told me when I was 22 years old.

Thanks for helping me. I really do appreciate it.

Savannah!

These may be of help - click on the links:

Narcissistic and psychopathic parents and their children - click on the links:

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/na ... ssage/4727

Rescue Fantasies - Surviving the Narcissist

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq80.html

The Malignant Optimism of the Abused

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal27.html

The Inverted Narcissist - Codependence and Relationships with Abusive
Narcissists

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq66.html

Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders22.html

The Dependent Patient - A Case Study

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders56.html

Danse Macabre - Trauma bonding and the Stockholm Syndrome

http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily.html

The Cult of the Narcissist

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal79.html

Healing and Curing Narcissism

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq63.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq77.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq70.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq12.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/10.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/case03.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/faq31.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/abusefamily8.html

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders37.html

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders45.html

You can learn more about me and my work here:

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/indexqa.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/mediakit.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/nar ... hotos.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/cv.html

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/archive01.html (scroll down to section
titled "Sam Vaknin, NPD")

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/journal1.html (my journal)

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/sipurim.html (short fiction)

http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/contents.html (poetry)

Thank you so much! I have only started looking at these but I really do appreciate you getting me the information I need.